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My grandmother used to say, “Words do not break bones”. I have to add, but it does break souls. I think the hardest part for a victim of 
domestic abuse is letting go of the emotional grip and the psychological fear from their abusive situations. Physical wounds tend to heal, depending on the severity of them, but the invisible ones tend to run deep and last a long time.
I believe that at some point victims have to make the decision of not being victims anymore. I’m not talking about the ones that are still inside the relationship, although it does apply. I’m specifically addressing those who have finally gotten out and are still living emotionally in the prison of their past abuse. Many survivors carry with them the fear, anguish, that feeling of looking over their shoulders to see if there’s a threat, for a long time after they have escaped the arms of abuse. It’s life consuming. I’m not saying this is an easy process. I do know that it’s easier said than done. I also know that the abuser has taken so much out of their victims that my encouragement is to not give them one more second of your life.
I believe that a conscious decision needs to be made to retake the life that was stolen. God promises to restore your life. “I’ll make up for 
the years of the locust. You’ll eat your fill of good food. You’ll be full of praises to your God, the God who has set you back on your heels in wonder” Joel 2:25. It may take days, months or years. It’s a journey and a process, and it will require support and healing. God has promised to heal us and take care of those who have hurt us in any way. Jeremiah 30:16 ”‘Everyone who hurt you will be hurt; your enemies will end up as slaves. Your plunderers will be plundered; your looters will become loot. As for you, I’ll come with healing, curing the incurable, because they all gave up on you and dismissed you as hopeless—“. I love this passage because when you’re in an abuse situation that’s exactly how you feel, hopeless and alone. God tells you that he sees your pain and its there through it. He promises to heal you from it.
Abusers have as much power as they are given. Choose not to feed that monster anymore!
If you are in an abusive situation, seek help. If you’re recovering from abuse, seek help. Allow God to guide your way out of your physical and emotional chains. It’s time to start living the life you were created to live. Know this, God is with you, and has a great purpose for your life. Close your ears to the lies of your abusers. God created you; beautiful, smart, strong and capable. You are not alone!!
Be blessed.
DVAM-Domestic Violence Awareness Month
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I didn’t forget to conclude the series. I think God wanted me to experience some things so that I would be able to share from recent knowledge.
wn while you are still angry” Being upset is a very uncomfortable feeling, going to bed angry or upset it’s a nightmare. Some people have lived lives of resentments and unforgiveness. This really affects any person’s spiritual and physical health and in the end, only the offended party is suffering the consequences. The offender probably doesn’t even know something happened. Make resolution with the things of that day before it ends. It helps continue healthy relationships. It helps practice forgiveness (and remember that we are forgiven as we forgive) and it definitely helps with a good night sleep.
Offenses usually start with the reaction of, “who are you to say or do this to me? I have a different question, ‘Who are you to judge the other person and to know the circumstances” You who have received mercy, who are you not to give it? Matthew 6:12 says “Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” So, since you’re perfect and have never offended anyone, you will not have to forgive the one who offended you… think again! Continue reading in Matthew 6:14 “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”
Discovering out talents can be a tricky situation. God gave us all talents for his purpose, but as we go through life there are certain things that we have interest on for different reasons and they are not necessarily suited for us.
readiness to not discern our hurts and to mission into others…those others who need help, not us. (Did someone lose a mirror?) Shh! let me share a little secret, this is called pride!
I believe that most of our issues are in our head (mine are!). By that I mean the way we perceive our surroundings can make us react different to the same situation. We visualize something and when it doesn’t look like our vision in real life it becomes frustrating. What is important to us, it’s not necessarily important to other people. It is unfair to place expectations on others, especially if those have not been verbalize. We have this habit of assuming that people are mind readers. How many times have you heard or say, he or she knows better? Really? You may expect for them to know better, but that may not be the case. Free others from the prison of your expectation and face the reality of your own actions. Unless you have specifically explained to another person what your expectations are, don’t YOU expect for them to be met.
lenient or compassionate treatment— at the mercy of: wholly in the power of: with no way to protect oneself against.
It is terrible that as a people we have to be watchful even with those who we have been conditioned to trust, namely men and women who claim to come in the name of God. Sex scandals have not been exclusive to the Catholic Church, many preachers and pastors have fallen short of the grace and those things have become public. It is always disappointing. I think part of the disappointment comes from forgetting these individuals are merely men and women. We have the tendency to elevate their position because of the part they play in our communities, social settings and the body of Christ. The reality is that yes, their responsibility is to lead and teach us about the Lord, but their humanity doesn’t leave with their calling. Actually, as Christians we need to pray harder for our leaders because their attacks and strongholds are often as large as their calling.
know that this is a requirement of the commitment they have made. If sex was the driving force then priests having relations with Nuns or other secular adults would be just as, if not more, prevalent. The truth is pedophilia, rape, and sexual abuse is not sexually driven. They are driven by a deeper disturbance; it’s about control and power more than the sex itself.
On the other hand, from my years in church and annual “Good Friday” movies, I never saw rabbits, bunnies, hens or eggs related to the cross of Jesus Christ. Where did this come from? I’ve asked around and nobody seems to have an answer. After much searching, my good friend Google finally led me to my answer, several articles and web pages about the traditions of Easter.
blooming of flowers in the spring time. There was an abundance of eggs during this time as eggs were not part of their diets during the Lenten season. The eggs were boiled for preservation purposes.
