Motherhood journey – Naty Matos

If you’ve ever looked at another mother and thought, “Why can’t I keep up like that?”—you are not alone.

Maternal shame is one of the most common, yet least discussed, heavy lifts of parenting. It quietly shapes how we react, how we cope, and how we view ourselves. But there is a massive difference between making a mistake and believing you are the mistake.

Here is a look at how shame sneaks into motherhood, and why healing it changes everything for both you and your child.

Guilt vs. Shame: Knowing the Difference

Guilt says:“I lost my temper. I need to fix that.” (Focuses on behavior)
Shame says:“I’m just a bad mother.” (Focuses on identity)

When we parent from shame, every messy moment feels like proof of failure. Instead of driving positive change, shame triggers emotional withdrawal, overcompensation, or self-attack.

The Illusion of the “Perfect Mother”

Social media serves up a steady stream of spotless homes, organic meals, and serene parenting. But comparing your raw, exhausting days to someone else’s curated highlights creates an impossible standard.

Your child doesn’t need a perfect mother who never makes a mistake. They need a regulated mother—one who can take responsibility, repair the moment, and show them how to recover when life gets messy.

What You’ll Discover in the Full Episode:

Why Motherhood Triggers Childhood Wounds: How your past might be driving your current parenting reactions (and how to break the cycle).
The Power of Repair: Practical scripts to reset with your child after a hard moment without collapsing into self-doubt.
4 Physical Tools to Stop a Shame Spiral: Quick, body-based techniques to regulate your nervous system before you react.
Reparenting Yourself: Simple self-compassion practices that model true emotional resilience for your kids.

You Don’t Have to Parent from Burnout

Real motherhood includes messy rooms, quick meals, lost patience, and days where keeping everyone safe and fed is the ultimate win. That doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re human.

Ready to drop the weight of perfectionism and find your way back to yourself?

👉 [Watch the full video/episode here] to learn how to break free from maternal shame and build a grounded, compassionate connection with your child.

On this week’s episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, we delve into the deeply moving story of Cate Purvis, a mother who has faced unimaginable heartbreak and found solace in faith and community. Her journey, marked by the joy of new life and the pain of loss, is a testament to resilience and the power of hope. Join us as we explore her remarkable story and glean insights into finding strength in the face of adversity.

Cate shares how her journey into motherhood began at a young age, shaping her perspective in profound ways. The early joys and challenges set the stage for a remarkable journey filled with love, loss, and unwavering faith.

Through the heartbreaking experience of multiple miscarriages, Cate found herself navigating a path of grief and healing. She opens up about how she coped with the loss of her babies, offering insights into the complex emotions and challenges faced along the way.

As a birth and miscarriage bereavement doula, Cate found a unique opportunity to support other women through their own journeys of loss and healing. She shares how this experience not only impacted those she helped but also played a profound role in her own healing process.

Central to Cate’s journey is her unwavering faith, which has sustained her through the darkest moments. She reflects on the role of faith in finding hope and resilience in the face of adversity

Miscarriage is often surrounded by silence and stigma. Cate sheds light on some of the misconceptions and stigmas surrounding miscarriage, advocating for greater understanding and support for those who have experienced loss.

Drawing from her own experiences, Cate offers heartfelt advice to other parents who have experienced the loss of a child or multiple miscarriages. Her words of wisdom provide comfort and guidance for those navigating similar journeys.

Looking ahead, Cate shares her vision for continuing to make a difference in the lives of others. Through her work and her story, she hopes to inspire hope and healing in those who need it most.

The journey of Cate Purvis is a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of faith and community. We are grateful for her willingness to share her story and hope that it brings comfort and encouragement to those who need it.

Cate has also authored a new book titled “Words I Could Not Say: Musing of a Miscarriage Mama”

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