vulnerability – Naty Matos

Why do so many arguments feel like they go in circles?

You start talking about dishes, tone, or timing… and somehow it turns into something much bigger. The truth is, most relationship conflict isn’t about the surface issue. It’s about what’s happening underneath — the hurt spots, fears, and emotional wounds that get triggered when we feel unsafe.

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Dan Schneider to unpack one powerful truth: emotional safety is the foundation of lasting intimacy.

When emotional safety is missing, even small misunderstandings can feel threatening. But when it’s present, couples can:

Express needs without fear of criticism
Disagree without escalating
Repair trust after hurt
Rebuild closeness even after setbacks

Dr. Schneider shares practical, research-backed tools to help couples:

Communicate without spiraling into blame
Identify and talk about “hurt spots” before they explode
Make daily “trust deposits” that strengthen the connection
Use structured conversations that actually lead somewhere
Reignite intimacy through intentional moments of connection

One of the most powerful ideas he introduces? Trust is like a piggy bank. Every honest conversation and consistent action is a deposit. But when trust is broken, the coins spill out — and repair requires intentional rebuilding.

If you’ve ever thought:

“Why do we keep having the same fight?”
“How do we rebuild after trust has been shaken?”
“Is it possible to feel close again?”

This episode is for you.

We’re not just talking about avoiding conflict. We’re talking about transforming it — using it as a doorway to deeper understanding, stronger emotional safety, and lasting intimacy.

Dr. Dan Sneider, Ed.D. is a couples therapist and educator. He is also the creator of The Intimacy Shift, a 12-week program helping couples rebuild emotional safety and lasting connection.
Dr. Sneider blends Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, attachment theory, neuroscience, and practical communication tools. His approach is structured, compassionate, and deeply rooted in helping partners understand themselves and each other in a new way.

To contact Dr. Sneider: https://intimacyshift.com/

Visitors to his website will get FREE access to my ‘6 Keys to Unlocking Intimate Conversations with Your Partner.’ It is a unique 12-page PDF. It includes templates, tools, and practices to transform your relationship.Here are links to his socials also: Instagram, YouTube, LinkedIn, and Facebook.

🎧 Tune in to hear how small, intentional shifts can radically change the emotional climate of your relationship. Discover why vulnerability is the missing piece to the connection you’ve been craving.

We’ve all been there—caught in a whirlwind of emotions like stress, anxiety, and self-doubt. But what if you could transform those negative feelings into something empowering? In this deeply moving episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, hosts Naty and Veda sit down with Sue Bowles, a master certified life coach and award-winning author, who has turned her personal struggles into a message of hope and healing.

Sue’s journey from trauma to thriving is both inspiring and eye-opening. She’s not only learned to navigate her own emotional ups and downs but has become a powerful advocate for mental health. If you’ve ever wondered how to break free from the grip of anxiety or tackle those negative thoughts head-on, this episode is for you.

Why You Should Listen:

In this candid conversation, Sue shares:

The power of vulnerability and how it’s key to healing.
The practice of gratitude and how it can immediately interrupt anxiety.
Why seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness—especially in faith communities.
How to help others who are struggling without judgment, and the role of service in healing.

Sue also opens up about her personal battles with childhood trauma, an eating disorder, and even suicidal thoughts, offering real, raw insights into how she found healing—and how you can too. It’s not a quick fix, but Sue’s philosophy of taking “one step ahead” is the key to navigating your own journey.

Don’t Miss Out:

This episode is filled with wisdom, hope, and practical tools you can start using today. Whether you’re looking for ways to manage negative emotions or simply want to feel inspired by someone who has walked through the fire and emerged stronger, Sue’s message will leave you motivated and empowered.

Sue Bowles is a survivor turned thriver as an author, speaker, and Master Certified Life Coach. Having done the hard work of healing from a childhood rape, an eating disorder, other sexual assaults, and considering suicide, Sue now defines the effect the life-altering events have on her. The events no longer define Sue; she defines them.
“You only have to be a step ahead to help the person behind you” is the bedrock to the value Sue brings. She founded My Step Ahead and is the “Chief Instigator” behind the new Dare to Believe Movement, whose purpose is to nurture others to ‘dare to believe that you matter,’ knowing that nothing changes until that bedrock belief is solidified.
Whether speaking on a podcast, a stage, or one-on-one, Sue’s enthusiasm is contagious, shining the light of hope wherever the listener needs.
Sue’s award-winning first book, “This Much I Know…The Space Between” is available on Amazon and Kindle.

Call to Action:

Ready to break the stigma surrounding mental health and start your healing journey? Listen to the full episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse now!

And for more resources, visit SueBowles.com to grab her free PDF, “Quieting Your Inner Karen,” and discover how to silence that inner critic for good.