parenting advice – Naty Matos

If you’ve ever looked at another mother and thought, “Why can’t I keep up like that?”—you are not alone.

Maternal shame is one of the most common, yet least discussed, heavy lifts of parenting. It quietly shapes how we react, how we cope, and how we view ourselves. But there is a massive difference between making a mistake and believing you are the mistake.

Here is a look at how shame sneaks into motherhood, and why healing it changes everything for both you and your child.

Guilt vs. Shame: Knowing the Difference

Guilt says:“I lost my temper. I need to fix that.” (Focuses on behavior)
Shame says:“I’m just a bad mother.” (Focuses on identity)

When we parent from shame, every messy moment feels like proof of failure. Instead of driving positive change, shame triggers emotional withdrawal, overcompensation, or self-attack.

The Illusion of the “Perfect Mother”

Social media serves up a steady stream of spotless homes, organic meals, and serene parenting. But comparing your raw, exhausting days to someone else’s curated highlights creates an impossible standard.

Your child doesn’t need a perfect mother who never makes a mistake. They need a regulated mother—one who can take responsibility, repair the moment, and show them how to recover when life gets messy.

What You’ll Discover in the Full Episode:

Why Motherhood Triggers Childhood Wounds: How your past might be driving your current parenting reactions (and how to break the cycle).
The Power of Repair: Practical scripts to reset with your child after a hard moment without collapsing into self-doubt.
4 Physical Tools to Stop a Shame Spiral: Quick, body-based techniques to regulate your nervous system before you react.
Reparenting Yourself: Simple self-compassion practices that model true emotional resilience for your kids.

You Don’t Have to Parent from Burnout

Real motherhood includes messy rooms, quick meals, lost patience, and days where keeping everyone safe and fed is the ultimate win. That doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re human.

Ready to drop the weight of perfectionism and find your way back to yourself?

👉 [Watch the full video/episode here] to learn how to break free from maternal shame and build a grounded, compassionate connection with your child.

Parenting is one of life’s most rewarding experiences—but let’s be honest, it’s also one of the toughest. Sleepless nights, constant compromises, and the challenge of balancing a relationship while raising little humans can feel overwhelming. Add the complexities of a blended family, and it’s no surprise relationships can feel stretched to their limits.

In this heartfelt and empowering episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, hosts Naty and Veda sit down with licensed marriage and family therapist Reesa Morala to uncover the unfiltered realities of parenting and relationships. Reesa, a Gottman-trained therapist and mom of two, shares invaluable insights on navigating the rocky terrain of parenthood without losing yourself—or your partner—along the way.

You’ll hear about:

How parenting impacts personal identity: Reesa explains why many parents feel like they’ve lost themselves and how to reconnect with who you are outside of being “mom” or “dad.”
Blended family dynamics: Building bonds with new family members can be tricky. Reesa shares why patience and boundaries are key to creating harmony.
Communication strategies that actually work: Learn simple tools to stop fights before they escalate and foster understanding instead of resentment.
The power of humor and joy: Even in the chaos of parenting, moments of laughter can bring you and your partner closer together.
Prioritizing self-care: Discover why taking care of yourself is one of the best gifts you can give your family.

Reesa’s warm, relatable style will leave you feeling seen, supported, and inspired to tackle the highs and lows of parenting with renewed hope. Whether you’re navigating life as a parent in a blended family or simply looking to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with actionable advice and real talk you won’t want to miss.

Reesa Morala is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. Reesa is the owner of Embrace Renewal Therapy & Wellness Collective and host of The Real Family Eats. She is dedicated to being a parenting ally, helping parents create thriving families by prioritizing their relationships. Her passion is fueled by her overcoming generational trauma in her own life and navigating the tough transition into parenthood. She provides couples therapy, couples workshops, and parenting workshops in her private practice. In her videocast, she speaks with parents dishing on the real parenting struggle while dishing on their favorite recipes. Both ventures aim to help parents feel less alone in the hard times and support their success as a family. To reach Reesa just click here.

Ready to prioritize your relationship while thriving as a parent? Tune in to this episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse to learn how. Subscribe now on your favorite podcast platform and join the conversation transforming families everywhere.