self-discovery – Naty Matos

Signs, Strategies, and Hope for Change

Do you ever feel like your brain has 47 tabs open — and none of them are loading properly?

If you struggle with forgetfulness, impulsivity, restlessness, or difficulty starting tasks, you may have wondered about the cause. Is this anxiety… or could it be ADHD?

In this episode, we sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Tamar Shtrambrand to unpack what adult ADHD really looks like — especially the signs that often go unnoticed.

Because here’s the truth:
Adult ADHD is frequently misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or masked for years — particularly in women.

We explore:

The subtle but persistent signs of adult ADHD
Why starting tasks can feel harder than completing them
What “brain chatter” actually means
How ADHD differs from anxiety (and why the two often get confused)
Why many women aren’t diagnosed until adulthood

Dr. Tamar explains that ADHD isn’t about laziness or lack of discipline. It’s about how the brain regulates attention, transitions, and executive function. For many adults, the pattern has been there for years… they’ve just learned to adapt, compensate, or blame themselves.

We also dive into:

Practical, non-medication management strategies
The role of sleep, nutrition, and movement
Emotional regulation tools that actually help
When medication might be considered
And the surprising strengths of the ADHD brain

Because ADHD isn’t just a list of challenges.

It’s also creativity. Vision. Passion. Deep empathy. Innovative thinking.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated with yourself for not “having it together,” this episode offers clarity, validation, and hope. Understanding your brain isn’t a label — it’s a doorway to working with yourself instead of against yourself.

🎧Tune in to learn how to recognize the signs. Explore practical tools. Discover how an ADHD brain can thrive with the right support.

Hey there! It’s been a while since we had a heart-to-heart, and today I want to talk about something that’s been on my mind. I know I spoke about balancing our lives not too long ago, but I think it bears reminding ourselves that if we’re not careful, we can easily lose that balance. Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs at us, and sometimes it takes a little stumble to remember what truly matters.

In the past, my focus was firmly fixed on my career. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not what you’d call an “ambitious” person, but I used to think that my value was directly tied to my professional success. Climbing the corporate ladder seemed like the ultimate goal. However, as they say, life happens, and one day, that career was gone. It was a tough pill to swallow, but it forced me to rediscover who I was beyond the job title.

One aspect of life that I’ve always highly valued is family. Now, I’ll be the first to admit that I’m absolutely terrible at keeping up with people, so thank God for social media, am I right? But over time, I’ve learned that family isn’t just the people you happen to share a last name or a DNA connection with. Family is about the people you choose to walk through this crazy journey called life with you.

So, how does all this relate to finding that elusive balance in life? Well, here’s the thing: anything in excess can be harmful for us. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t prioritize certain aspects of our lives. For me, relationships are right up there at the top of my list of priorities. The people you choose to have in your life, those are the ones who need you the most.

Our reality is that life is short, and it zips by faster than we can imagine. None of us get to stay here forever. We can’t take our careers or our possessions with us when we go. All that accompanies us to the great unknown are the love we’ve shared and the experiences we’ve lived. Of course, we need resources to live and to make some of those experiences happen, but if we let those things become our top priority, we miss out on the bigger picture.

You know, the best piece of advice I’ve ever received was that in order to truly enjoy life, I had to keep it in balance. Now, let me tell you, it’s not an easy task. It means doing what’s necessary to live our lives to the fullest without losing sight of what’s really important—those relationships, those moments, and the love we share.

I’m a planner at heart. Keeping a schedule is a way to help us make sure that we work that balance in life. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. We all have phones with calendars and virtual assistants that can set reminders for us and manage our calendars. Make sure that you schedule time for the ones you love. Also, make sure that you schedule some time for you. Sometimes we forget to love ourselves and that gets us out of balance.

So, here’s my friendly reminder to you (and myself): let’s not forget what truly matters. In the grand scheme of things, it’s not about how high we climb in our careers or how many possessions we amass. It’s about the people we love and the memories we create along the way. So, let’s keep striving for that balance, because that’s where the real magic of life happens.

Until next, be blessed!