Author: Naty Matos

Great desire to worship God through the gift of writing and share a message of inspiration to all around me.

Finding Gratitude in Absence: Honoring Loved Ones During Thanksgiving

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Thanksgiving is a season of gratitude, connection, and the warmth of sharing meals with those closest to our hearts. Yet, for many, it’s also a time when the ache of absence feels especially profound. An empty chair at the table may remind us of loved ones who are distant, estranged, or no longer with us. These quiet moments of longing reflect cherished memories and unspoken wishes.

But even amid the bittersweet pangs of missing someone, there are ways to honor those feelings, foster meaningful connections, and embrace the gratitude that Thanksgiving inspires.

1. Acknowledge Their Absence

Grief and longing are natural companions during the holiday season. Rather than suppress these emotions, invite them to be part of the day. Speak your loved one’s name, share a favorite story about them, or recall a cherished memory. Acknowledging their absence doesn’t diminish the joy of the season—it creates a space for joy to coexist with remembrance.

Consider a simple ritual to honor them, such as:

  • Lighting a candle in their memory at the dinner table.
  • Displaying a meaningful memento they treasured.
  • Writing a heartfelt letter expressing your thoughts and feelings.

These acts of remembrance not only honor their legacy but also keep their presence alive in your heart.

2. Create New Traditions

When the weight of absence feels too heavy, creating new traditions can offer a sense of renewal and comfort. You don’t have to replicate the past to honor it. Instead, find ways to infuse the holiday with fresh meaning:

  • Cook a dish they loved and share stories about why it was special.
  • Take a walk in their honor and reflect on the lessons they imparted.
  • Start a gratitude jar where everyone contributes a note of thanks, creating a shared experience that bridges the gap between past and present.

For those separated by distance, a video call or sharing a favorite photo can provide a moment of connection that transcends miles.

3. Lean on Community

Grief often feels isolating, but you don’t have to bear it alone. Reach out to friends, family, or trusted support groups. Sharing memories of your loved one can foster connection and mutual healing. Others may be missing them too, and together you can honor their impact on your lives.

If the loneliness feels too much, consider giving back. Volunteer to serve meals, donate to a cause your loved one cared about, or spend time with others who may also feel the weight of loss during the holidays. Acts of kindness can bring purpose and comfort to the day.

4. Find Gratitude in the Present

Even in the midst of loss, gratitude remains a powerful balm. Reflect on the laughter, lessons, and love your loved one brought into your life. These memories are gifts that continue to shape who you are.

At the same time, open your heart to the blessings still present—those gathered around you, the warmth of a shared meal, or even the beauty of a quiet, reflective moment. Gratitude doesn’t erase longing, but it can remind us of the richness of what we’ve experienced and what still lies ahead.

5. Be Gentle With Yourself

Holidays stir up complex emotions, and it’s okay to feel them all—joy, sorrow, love, and grief. There’s no right or wrong way to navigate the absence of someone you hold dear.

Allow yourself to let go of the pressure to make the day perfect. If the emotions feel too overwhelming, take a moment to step away, breathe, or cry if you need to. Honoring what your heart needs is an act of grace.

Carrying Their Love Forward

While Thanksgiving may amplify their absence, it also provides a chance to honor their love and legacy. Whether through stories, new traditions, or quiet moments of reflection, you carry their essence forward with you.

This Thanksgiving, as you gather around the table, let yourself hold them close in your heart. In doing so, you may find that they’ve never truly left. Missing them is a testament to the deep connection you shared—a bond that transcends time and space.

May your Thanksgiving be filled with gratitude, gentle healing, and the comforting presence of cherished memories.

Discover the Secret to a Stress-Free, Budget-Friendly Christmas!

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🎄 The holiday season is here, and while it’s a time for joy and celebration, it can also bring its fair share of financial stress. Does the thought of overspending or holiday debt sound familiar? You’re not alone—and this week’s episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse has you covered!

In our latest conversation, hosts Naty and Veda sit down with renowned financial expert Ralph Estep Jr. from Saggio Accounting+PLUS. Together, we uncover the keys to celebrating Christmas with intention, love, and financial wisdom. Ralph shares simple yet powerful tips to help you stay within your budget while creating meaningful holiday memories that focus on what truly matters—faith, family, and togetherness.

💡 Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn in this episode:

  • How to create a holiday spending plan that actually works
  • The “24-Hour Rule” for avoiding impulse buys
  • Creative gift ideas that won’t break the bank
  • How to keep Christ at the center of your Christmas celebrations

Ralph also touches on the emotional side of the season, sharing ways to connect with loved ones, embrace gratitude, and support others who might be struggling. Plus, he’s giving our listeners an exclusive free resource to help make this your most mindful and stress-free holiday yet!

Ralph V. Estep Jr. is a distinguished finance, accounting, and technology professional with a dynamic career spanning decades. As the principal at Saggio Management Group, Inc., Ralph has built a reputation for leadership, innovation, and excellence in financial management and entrepreneurship. His academic achievements include a Bachelor of Science in Accounting from the University of Delaware and an MBA from Wilmington University. Over the years, Ralph has earned prestigious professional designations, including Licensed Public Accountant (LPA) and Accredited Business Accountant (ABA). His career highlights include serving as CFO at Westminster Presbyterian Church, Executive Vice President at American Spirit Federal Credit Union, and controller at a prominent Delaware law firm, where his innovations in financial and operational systems significantly advanced organizational efficiency.

In addition to his professional endeavors, Ralph is deeply committed to leveraging technology to modernize financial practices, founding cutting-edge firms such as The Estep Group and Capital Cloud Solutions. Beyond finance, Ralph co-founded Estep Farm LLC, raising Black Angus cows, and shares his financial expertise through the “Ask Ralph” podcast and radio show. His commitment to community and education is reflected in his mentorship roles and participation in leadership training programs. Happily married to Jennifer Estep with two sons, Ralph balances a thriving career with a rich family life, leaving an indelible mark in both professional and personal spheres.

✨ Ready to shift your mindset this holiday season? Click the link to listen now and learn how you can make Christmas memorable without overspending. Don’t forget to grab your free holiday guide here—it’s our first gift to you this Christmas!

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Division is the Plan of the Enemy: A Call to Unity Among Believers

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One of the greatest weapons the enemy wields against humanity is division. Whether it’s within families, churches, or nations, division blinds us to the love we are called to embody as followers of Christ. Yet, as believers, we are called to a higher standard—a standard rooted in love, humility, and the truth of the Gospel.

The Bible reminds us, “Every kingdom divided against itself is laid waste, and no city or house divided against itself will stand” (Matthew 12:25). Division weakens us, causing us to lose sight of our purpose: to glorify God and spread the good news of Jesus Christ.

The Danger of Judging Others

Far too often, we find ourselves passing judgment on others—mocking, ridiculing, or even demonizing those whose experiences, perspectives, or struggles we don’t understand. Yet Scripture tells us plainly: judgment belongs to God alone.

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you” (Matthew 7:1-2). Instead of pointing out the speck in our neighbor’s eye, Jesus urges us to address the plank in our own (Matthew 7:3-5). This isn’t just a call to humility but an invitation to self-reflection.

When we fail to extend grace, we betray the very heart of the Gospel. It’s not our role to condemn; it’s our role to love. We are ambassadors of reconciliation (2 Corinthians 5:18), not division.

Unity Despite Differences

Our nation—and even the global church—faces a critical moment. Political ideologies, cultural backgrounds, and personal convictions often draw lines in the sand that separate us. But we must remember that heaven will not look homogeneous. As the a pastor I recently heard beautifully stated, heaven will be filled with people from every tribe, tongue, and nation (Revelation 7:9). God’s Kingdom is expansive, not exclusive.

It’s important to remember that believers exist on both sides of the political aisle. There are liberals who are deeply pro-life and conservatives who are passionate about social justice. Jesus is not confined to a political party or national identity—He is the King of kings and the Lord of lords (Revelation 19:16), and His Kingdom transcends earthly borders.

When Jesus taught about loving our neighbor, He made it clear that “neighbor” doesn’t only mean the person who looks, thinks, or acts like us. It includes the stranger, the foreigner, and even those we might consider enemies (Luke 10:25-37). To be the light in the dark (Matthew 5:14), we must embrace this expansive view of love and unity.

One Purpose, One Mission

For God, there is only one human race—we are all His children, and the blood of Jesus unites us. As believers, what sets us apart is not our perfection but the fact that we have encountered the Creator and have chosen to live for Him. Regardless of the specific calling on each of our lives, our ultimate mission is the same: to proclaim the Gospel so the world might be saved (Mark 16:15).

When we allow division to distract us, we lose sight of this mission. Instead of being salt and light, we become clanging cymbals—loud but ineffective (1 Corinthians 13:1). It’s time to live the truth of the Gospel, extending grace to those who don’t think, act, or believe like us.

A Call to Action

Believers, let’s commit to being agents of healing in a broken world. Let’s expand our view of God’s Kingdom beyond the four walls of our church or our own nation. Let us embody the love of Christ, refusing to be swayed by division and boldly proclaiming the truth of the Gospel.

Remember: we are one body with many parts (1 Corinthians 12:12-14). Our differences should enhance our unity, not diminish it. Let’s choose to love radically, to listen deeply, and to walk humbly with God (Micah 6:8).

This week, take time to reflect on how you can be a light in the darkness. How can you build bridges where there have been walls? How can you embody the love of Jesus to someone who may not think, look, or act like you? Let’s live as ambassadors of Christ, demonstrating that the Gospel is for all people, in all places, at all times.

Together, we can be the hands and feet of Jesus, bringing His love to a world desperate for healing and hope.

What happens when your child doesn’t share your faith?

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In this latest episode of Thrive by the Rising Muse, hosts Naty and Veda dive into one of the most challenging conversations for any parent – when a child questions their faith. This episode features Heather Hart, who opens up about her journey after her daughter expressed doubts about Christianity. With raw honesty, Heather shares how this moment reshaped their family dynamic and taught her to balance unconditional love with the values she holds dear.

Heather Hart is a passionate writer, speaker, and devoted mother who shares her journey of faith and resilience in navigating the complexities of parenting. Known for her candid insights and heartfelt stories, Heather writes extensively on topics of faith, family, and personal growth. She is the author of a powerful blog post on handling a child’s faith crisis, where she draws from her own experiences to help other parents facing similar challenges. Heather’s approach is grounded in love, empathy, and a deep commitment to fostering strong, compassionate relationships within her family and community.

Heather’s story goes beyond a personal faith crisis; it’s a testament to resilience, grace, and the art of “letting go” while still holding onto love. From emotional conversations about belief to the wisdom that only comes from experience, this episode is filled with heartfelt insights for parents and families of all backgrounds. Heather reveals how she finds peace amidst uncertainty and how her faith continues to guide her through the ups and downs of parenthood. Check out Heather’s book Candid Moments.

Tune in to hear Heather’s inspiring journey and discover valuable insights on how to navigate difficult conversations about faith and identity with loved ones. This episode of Thrive by the Rising Muse is not just a conversation; it’s a guide to thriving with empathy, patience, and resilience. Don’t miss it – this could be the encouragement you need to handle your own family’s journey with grace and hope.

Empowering Teens: Mental Health, Journaling & Self-Expression

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In today’s fast-paced world, it’s more important than ever to support teens in navigating their mental health. But finding ways to connect with and empower young people can be challenging. That’s why in our latest episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, we’re thrilled to host Emani Owens, a passionate advocate for teen mental wellness. Emani has dedicated her life to creating safe spaces where teens feel heard, respected, and encouraged to express themselves.

Emani’s journey began with a simple yet powerful vision: to foster a community that values mental health support for teens. She’s now the founder of Owens Teen Empowerment, where she hosts seminars and online events to help teens openly discuss their challenges, build self-confidence, and discover healthy outlets for self-expression.

During our talk, Emani shared impactful insights about the pressures teens face today—from the allure and pitfalls of social media to the importance of self-expression through tools like journaling. Her unique perspective highlights the struggles teens encounter as they build their identities in an often overwhelming world.

And as the holiday season approaches, Emani is preparing for a special December event designed to bring teens and parents together in a safe space for open communication and healing. Whether you’re a teen, a parent, or simply someone interested in making a positive impact, this episode is a must-listen.

Emani Owens, an educational teacher, business owner, and the inspiring founder of Owens Teen Empowerment. Imani is dedicated to empowering young teens to excel academically, emotionally, and socially. Through her work, she provides guidance on communication, healing, and growth, and encourages teens to embrace learning as a pathway to a brighter future for themselves and their families. Connect with Emani on Facebook and Instagram

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Tune in for an inspiring conversation that sheds light on how we can all help the next generation thrive!

Listen to the full episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, available now on your favorite podcast platforms. And don’t forget to check out the show notes for more information on Imani’s upcoming event and ways you can get involved.

The Gift and Challenge of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

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In today’s world, the dynamics of family life are shifting, and more often than not, grandparents are stepping into the role of primary caregivers for their grandchildren. This can happen for a variety of reasons, including parental health issues, financial struggles, or unforeseen circumstances. While this shift can be challenging, it can also bring unique rewards and opportunities for both generations.

Understanding the Shift

  1. Reasons for the Transition: Various factors can lead to grandparents becoming caregivers. In some cases, parents may face addiction issues, mental health challenges, or other obstacles that prevent them from providing stable care. Additionally, economic factors, such as job loss or housing instability, can contribute to this situation. “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” — Galatians 6:2
  2. Legal and Financial Implications: For many grandparents, taking on this role requires navigating legal systems, including custody arrangements or guardianship. Understanding the financial implications—such as increased expenses and potential benefits—can help in making informed decisions. “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out.” — Proverbs 18:15

Challenges Faced by Grandparents

  1. Emotional Strain: Transitioning into a parental role later in life can be emotionally taxing. Grandparents may experience feelings of loss or grief over the changes in their family structure, along with the stress of raising children again. “Cast your cares on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” — Psalm 55:22
  2. Generational Gaps: The differences in parenting styles and cultural shifts can pose challenges. What worked for them decades ago may not resonate with modern parenting practices, leading to misunderstandings and conflicts. “Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” — James 1:19
  3. Health Considerations: Many grandparents are at a stage in life where they may have health concerns or mobility issues. Balancing self-care with the demands of caregiving can be a delicate tightrope. “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” — Isaiah 40:31

The Positive Aspects

  1. Building Stronger Bonds: This new dynamic can strengthen the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren. Time spent together can foster deeper connections and provide children with a sense of stability and love. “Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.” — Proverbs 17:6
  2. Sharing Wisdom: Grandparents often bring a wealth of life experience and knowledge. Their stories and insights can provide valuable lessons for grandchildren, enriching their understanding of family history and values. “Wisdom belongs to the aged, and understanding to the old.” — Job 12:12
  3. Creating a Stable Environment: For many children, being raised by grandparents can provide a more stable and nurturing environment, especially in tumultuous times. This stability can be crucial for emotional and psychological development. “The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge.” — Psalm 18:2

Tips for Grandparents Navigating Caregiving

  1. Establish Boundaries: It’s important for grandparents to define their role and set boundaries with parents. Clear communication can help manage expectations and responsibilities.“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” — Colossians 4:6
  2. Seek Support: Joining support groups or seeking counseling can help grandparents cope with their emotional and practical challenges. Connecting with others in similar situations can be a valuable source of strength. “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:11
  3. Prioritize Self-Care: Grandparents must remember to take care of themselves. Regular exercise, hobbies, and social interactions are essential for maintaining physical and mental health. “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit?” — 1 Corinthians 6:19
  4. Stay Informed: Educating themselves about child development and modern parenting techniques can help grandparents feel more equipped to handle the challenges of caregiving. “Get wisdom, get understanding; do not forget my words or turn away from them.” — Proverbs 4:5

Conclusion

While the role of caregiver can be daunting for grandparents, it also offers an opportunity to profoundly impact their grandchildren’s lives. By embracing this new chapter with resilience and love, grandparents can help nurture the next generation, creating a legacy that transcends challenges and fosters connection.

STOP Letting Seasonal Affective Disorder Control Your Life!

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As the days grow shorter and colder, many of us start to feel the subtle shift in our moods. But for some, these winter blues are more than just a passing phase – they’re a real struggle. In this eye-opening episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, we’re joined by licensed professional counselor Alexandra Mays from Mindful Steps, who sheds light on Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and the toll it can take on mental well-being.

From explaining how SAD differs from general depression to sharing everyday strategies for managing symptoms, Alexandra offers a compassionate and informative perspective on living through seasonal changes. Whether it’s the impact of reduced sunlight on our “happiness chemical” or how our sleep patterns shift in the colder months, Alexandra breaks down the science behind SAD in a way that’s both accessible and deeply relatable.

Are there ways to prevent SAD? How can we support loved ones going through this seasonal struggle? And what small, meaningful changes can we make to nurture our mental health as we enter the winter season? Get ready to discover answers to these questions and more. This conversation is packed with insights and practical advice that will leave you better prepared to thrive all year round.

Alexandra Mayes is a Licensed Therapist and a Clinical Director of several different clinics that focus on recovery for those struggling with addiction. She has been in the mental health field for over ten years now and has worked with children, teens, and adults. In 2021 she decided to open Mindful Steps with her husband. Mindful Steps is a group practice to expand her reach of care. In addition to receiving her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Tennessee State University, she also received her master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from there as well. She is a business owner, mental health advocate, wife, and mother of two daughters.

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 Mindful Steps Upcoming Events

  • Winter Blues: Grief and Loss Over the Holidays (11/20/2024) 
  • Mindful Steps: Healthy goals for the New Year. (01/08/2025) 
  • Mindful Steps for Mindful Care: 5k race to raise funds for our non-profit to provide free and/or reduced rates for webinars, conferences, workshops, and wellness programs for marginalized communities.  (05/26/2025) 
  • Mindful Care Wellness Program: an 8-week program to address emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, social, and vocational forms of self-care through a combination of Zoom, and in-personal workshops for psychoeducation.  The program will include mindfulness art sessions, yoga, financial advisors, breath work, health/fitness, nutrition, and mental health guest speakers throughout the eight weeks.  (05/31/2025 -07/23/2025)

Tune in now for a conversation that promises to warm up even the coldest of winter days.

Overcoming the Trap of Comparison: Finding Self-Worth in a Social Media World

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In today’s hyper-connected world, it’s all too easy to fall into the trap of comparison. Social media feeds are filled with curated lives, impressive achievements, and seemingly perfect moments. It’s natural to feel like we’re falling short when we see others shining. However, it’s crucial to remember that comparing ourselves to others can undermine our self-worth and distort our perception of success.

“For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” — Galatians 1:10

The Illusion of Comparison

When we compare ourselves to others, we often focus on their highlight reels while overlooking our own progress and achievements. Everyone has their struggles, insecurities, and setbacks—things that are rarely shared in public forums. It’s essential to recognize that behind every seemingly perfect photo or achievement, there’s a unique story filled with challenges and growth.

“Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.” — Galatians 6:4-5

Understanding Your Value

Each person has their own path, shaped by individual experiences, strengths, and passions. Instead of measuring your worth against someone else’s success, take time to reflect on your journey. Acknowledge your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrating your milestones can foster a sense of fulfillment and help you appreciate your unique contributions to the world.

“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” — Ephesians 2:10

Shifting Your Mindset

When you recognize your inherent value, you can begin to cultivate a healthier mindset. Here are some strategies to help you shift your focus:

  1. Practice Gratitude: Regularly remind yourself of what you’re thankful for in your life. This can help shift your focus from what others have to the abundance in your own life. “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:18
  2. Set Personal Goals: Define success on your own terms. Set goals that resonate with your values and aspirations rather than those imposed by societal standards. “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” — Proverbs 16:3
  3. Limit Social Media Exposure: Consider curating your social media feeds to follow accounts that inspire and uplift you. Unfollow those that trigger feelings of inadequacy. “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23
  4. Cultivate Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend. Acknowledge your struggles without judgment. “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32
  5. Engage in Self-Reflection: Spend time contemplating your strengths and areas for growth. Journaling can be an effective tool to track your progress and remind yourself of your journey. “Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves.” — 2 Corinthians 13:5

You Are Enough

Remember, you are better than you think you are. Your worth is inherent, not defined by comparison. Embracing your individuality allows you to cultivate confidence and authenticity. When you stop comparing yourself to others, you open the door to self-acceptance and a richer, more fulfilling life. “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” — Psalm 139:14

Ultimately, the journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance is ongoing. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, not a copy of someone else. Celebrate your uniqueness, for that is where your true strength lies. You have a remarkable journey ahead, and it’s entirely yours to embrace.

Unlock the Secrets to Healing from Grief with Carolyn J. Murphy!

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Are you struggling to move forward after loss, or perhaps supporting someone who is? You won’t want to miss this powerful episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse! This week, hosts Naty and Veda sit down with Carolyn J. Murphy—author, coach, and certified peer recovery specialist—who knows the depths of grief and the heights of healing.

In this episode, Carolyn shares her personal journey of loss, anger, and eventual transformation. Known as the “Mindshift Coach,” she reveals how shifting your mindset can be the key to unlocking emotional freedom. With profound insights from her book God, Why Did You Save Me?, Carolyn offers practical steps for those feeling stuck in grief and searching for a way out.

Whether you’re looking for tips on how to cope with grief, curious about how faith can carry you through dark times, or simply need some encouragement, this conversation will open your eyes to the possibility of healing. Carolyn reminds us that grief isn’t just about death—it’s about any kind of loss. And more importantly, it’s about finding purpose again.

Get ready for an episode filled with honesty, compassion, and wisdom. Carolyn’s message of hope is exactly what we all need to hear.

Highlights You Won’t Want to Miss:

  • How Carolyn learned to manage her grief after years of wearing a “mask.”
  • Why the first step to healing is giving yourself permission to grieve.
  • Practical strategies to break free from emotional cycles like anger and perfectionism.
  • The powerful role of faith and mindset in the recovery process.

To contact Carolyn

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Tune in now and take the first step towards healing. This conversation could be the spark that changes everything!

Catch the full episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse wherever you listen to podcasts or click on the picture below. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this episode with anyone needing it. Grief doesn’t have to keep you stuck—join us as we learn how to move forward together.

When a Friend Becomes Family: The Beautiful Transformation

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Friendship is often described as one of life’s greatest treasures. We share laughter, adventures, and secrets, creating bonds that can last a lifetime. But sometimes, those friendships evolve into something deeper, transforming a simple companion into family. This transition is a profound experience, filled with emotional depth and shared history. Here’s a closer look at what it means when a friend becomes family.

The Foundation of Trust
The journey from friend to family often starts with a foundation of trust. Friends share their lives, their struggles, and their triumphs, building a rapport that fosters vulnerability. As Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” When you can confide in someone without fear of judgment, it creates a sense of safety often found in familial relationships. This trust is the bedrock upon which a deeper connection is built.

Shared Experiences and Memories
As friendships grow, the experiences shared become milestones that bond people together. Whether it’s road trips, late-night talks, or celebrating life’s significant moments, these shared memories create a tapestry of experiences that strengthen the connection. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). When you look back on those memories, it’s easy to see how a friend can feel more like a sibling or a cherished family member.

The Choice of Family
One of the most beautiful aspects of friendship evolving into family is the conscious choice involved. Unlike biological ties, choosing someone as family is a powerful declaration of love and commitment. “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” (John 15:13). This choice signifies that this person is not just someone you share a bond with, but someone you want to include in your life’s narrative. This choice can be empowering, reinforcing the idea that family isn’t just about blood; it’s about the people who stand by you through thick and thin.

Support in Times of Need
True family shows up in times of need, and friends who become family do the same. They are the ones who lend a listening ear when life gets tough, provide comfort during heartbreak, and celebrate your victories as if they were their own. “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2). This unwavering support transforms a simple friendship into a familial bond, making you feel cherished and understood.

Celebrating Each Other’s Lives
When friends become family, there’s a natural inclination to celebrate one another’s lives. Birthdays, anniversaries, and other significant events become communal occasions filled with joy and laughter. “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn” (Romans 12:15). The love shared during these celebrations reinforces the idea that you are not just friends but part of a chosen family. These moments create a sense of belonging that enriches your life in ways that can’t be quantified.

Navigating Conflict with Love
Every relationship encounters conflict, and familial bonds are no exception. However, friends who have become family often navigate disagreements with love and understanding. “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). There’s a willingness to communicate openly and work through issues, which can strengthen the bond even further. This maturity in handling conflicts reflects a deep-rooted commitment to each other, akin to that found in traditional family dynamics.

Building Traditions Together
As friendships deepen, many choose to establish traditions that reinforce their familial bond. Whether it’s a weekly dinner, an annual trip, or a simple ritual of checking in regularly, these traditions create a sense of continuity and connection. “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together” (Hebrews 10:24-25). They provide a framework for the relationship to flourish and evolve over time, making the friendship feel even more like family.

The Beauty of Chosen Family
When a friend becomes family, it’s a beautiful transformation that enriches both lives. It’s a reminder that love knows no bounds and that the ties that bind us can be forged through shared experiences, trust, and commitment. “Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony” (Colossians 3:14). In a world where family can sometimes be complicated, the notion of chosen family provides comfort and joy, proving that sometimes, the people we hold closest to our hearts aren’t those we’re related to by blood, but those we’ve chosen to love fiercely.

So, cherish those friendships that have blossomed into family. Celebrate the memories, navigate the challenges, and continue building a life filled with love and laughter. After all, “The heart has an incredible capacity to expand, welcoming those who truly belong” (Psalm 133:1).