Authenticity – Naty Matos

By Dan First

Proverbs 3:3-4NIV
Let love and faithfulness never leave you
Bind them around your neck, write them on the tablets of your heart
Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.

All of us are known for something… Our behavior is usually the cause of our reputation. It would be a pretty great thing for people to think of us as loving and faithful. This verse makes me think of the multitude of times I have read on social media some form of “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me.”

First of all, that’s not true. Every sane person cares at least a little bit about what broader society thinks of them, and they care even more what their circle thinks. Even people who wish to consider themselves really unique will only stray so far from the accepted norms of their chosen community. The larger majority will take precautions to stay safely within the boundaries of what they know their primary peer group will approve of because they care what those people think.

Oftentimes the people who claim to be living as their “most authentic self” are the most predictable. They faithfully copy the dress code, ideology, and catchphrases of the groups they want to feel a part of. You know what they will think and say before their lips ever move.

BUT, if you are a person who claims to not care what anyone thinks of you… why is that? A bad reputation can only hold you back in multiple dimensions of your life. Your reputation is going to affect the way people see your family members, your spouse, and your children. Your reputation could affect the way people view the organizations you are a part of and care about. Having a good reputation before God ought to be our primary goal, but we should also care what the people around us observe about us. There’s likely to be a lot of truth about our reputation—for better or for worse.

There’s an old Yiddish saying I’ve heard: “If your friend calls you a donkey, ignore him. If five friends call you a donkey, buy a saddle.

About Dan:

Daniel First has been an entrepreneur, song writer, worship leader, recording artist, speaker, and pastor. He has spent thirty years studying and teaching the Bible. He and his wife, Brandy, have been married for 28 years and have 7 children.

Dan’s book “Wisdom Cries Out” talks to us about the meaning of abundant life in God and the scriptures. You can obtain Dan’s book on Amazon , Prairie Lights Blooks and Barnes and Nobles.

As parents, we often find ourselves learning valuable lessons from our children, unexpected teachers in the school of life. This week, I had a simple yet profound encounter with my toddler while teaching him the names of coins—penny, dime, nickel, and quarter. Little did I know, this innocent lesson would unveil deeper truths about the nature of value in our lives.

I asked my three-year-old to arrange the coins in order of perceived value. His tiny hands meticulously placed the nickel ahead of the dime because, in his eyes, bigger meant better. It was a moment of innocence, but it carried a profound message: sometimes, our perception of value is skewed by superficial attributes like size or shine.

In reflecting on this, I couldn’t help but draw parallels to a recent incident I came across online. A professional, undoubtedly talented and passionate about her craft, was denied participation in a podcast simply because she lacked a substantial social media following. Her value was reduced to mere numbers, overlooking the quality of her content and the depth of her expertise.

It’s a sobering reality check—a reminder that in a world fixated on metrics and numbers, true worth often goes unnoticed. We’ve become conditioned to equate popularity with value, overlooking the substance beneath the surface. But what if, like my toddler’s perception of coins, our judgments are misguided? What if genuine talent, authenticity, and integrity hold more weight than mere numbers on a screen?

Scripture echoes this sentiment, urging us not to conform to the world’s standards of value and success. In Romans 12:2, we’re encouraged to “not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” It’s a call to recalibrate our understanding of value, to see beyond the superficial and embrace the intrinsic worth of each individual.

Furthermore, Proverbs 11:1 reminds us that “a false balance is an abomination to the Lord, but a just weight is his delight.” God’s perspective transcends worldly measures of worth; He sees the heart, not the external façade. In His eyes, true value lies in character, integrity, and the sincere pursuit of righteousness.

As we navigate a world that often distorts the true meaning of value, let us heed the lessons from a toddler’s innocent perspective. Let us resist the temptation to measure worth by external standards and instead seek the deeper truths that define genuine value. And above all, let us find solace in the unwavering truth that in God’s eyes, we are valued not for what we possess or portray, but for who we are—beloved children, cherished and esteemed beyond measure.

So, the next time you’re tempted to equate value with popularity or status, remember the lesson of the coins and the wisdom of Scripture. True worth cannot be quantified by numbers; it is found in the richness of character, the depth of integrity, and the purity of heart. In embracing this truth, we discover a freedom that transcends the fleeting measures of the world—a freedom rooted in the unshakable assurance of our infinite worth in the eyes of our Heavenly Father.

Until next time, be blessed.

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