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Unveiling the Hidden Scars: Understanding Spiritual Abuse

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In a world where faith is often a source of strength, there lies a shadowy corner where it can be twisted into a tool of control. This episode of “Thrive by the Rising Muse” delves into the often-overlooked realm of spiritual abuse, a form of domestic violence that manipulates faith and scripture to dominate and silence. Join us as we explore the profound impact of this hidden abuse and the path to healing.

Spiritual abuse occurs when religious beliefs are weaponized to control or harm. It can manifest in intimate relationships, families, and even within religious institutions. The episode highlights how scripture is sometimes misused to justify mistreatment, leaving deep emotional scars. Naty and Veda share personal stories and insights, shedding light on the subtle yet damaging nature of this abuse.

Resources for Healing: For those seeking support, the episode offers valuable resources, including the National Domestic Violence Hotline and the Faith Trust Institute. These organizations provide guidance and support for survivors of spiritual abuse. Additionally, the episode encourages listeners to connect with survivor groups and rediscover their faith outside the abuser’s influence.

Conclusion: Spiritual abuse is a silent epidemic that thrives in the shadows. By bringing it into the light, we empower survivors to reclaim their faith and their lives. Watch the full episode to gain a deeper understanding of this issue and learn how to support those affected. Remember, you deserve a life filled with faith, healing, and abundance.

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Escaping the Grip: Understanding Spiritual Stockholm Syndrome

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In part 2 of our conversation with Tom Snow, on this week’s episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, we talk about those things that keep us in bondage that we even foster.

Imagine being held captive by beliefs that you defend with fervor, even as they limit your spiritual growth. This is the essence of spiritual Stockholm syndrome, a concept explored in our latest episode with Tom Snow. Join us as we delve into the complexities of religious captivity and the path to liberation.

Tom Snow introduces the idea of spiritual Stockholm syndrome, where individuals develop a psychological alliance with the belief systems that confine them. He explains how these systems, often rooted in fear and control, can lead believers to defend their own spiritual captivity, mistaking it for faithfulness.

Religious captivity can manifest in various forms, from rigid doctrines to manipulative leadership. Tom discusses the emotional and spiritual toll this takes on individuals, highlighting stories of those who have struggled to overcome this challenge. The episode sheds light on the subtle ways in which captivity is maintained and the courage required to challenge it.

Breaking free from spiritual captivity requires introspection and a willingness to question long-held beliefs. Tom emphasizes the importance of seeking truth and authenticity in one’s spiritual journey, offering practical advice for those seeking to escape the grip of false beliefs and find a more fulfilling path.

“Escaping the Grip” is a call to action for anyone feeling trapped by their beliefs. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on their spiritual journey and consider the possibility of a faith unburdened by captivity. Join us in this enlightening conversation and take the first step towards spiritual freedom.

“Set the Captives Free” is not just a book title but a call to action for those seeking spiritual liberation. This episode invites listeners to reflect on their own beliefs and consider the possibility of a faith unburdened by false constructs. Join us in this transformative conversation and take the first step towards spiritual freedom.

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Why You’re UNKNOWINGLY Defending the Rules that Keep You Trapped?

Unmasking the Chains: False Belief Systems in Religion

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In a world where faith is often seen as a sanctuary, the reality of spiritual captivity within religious contexts can be a startling revelation. Tom Snow, author of “Set the Captives Free,” joins us to explore the origins and impacts of false belief systems that have infiltrated religious practices. This episode sheds light on the hidden chains that bind believers and offers a path to true spiritual freedom.

Tom Snow delves into the historical roots of false belief systems, tracing their emergence from well-intentioned interpretations to rigid constructs that often stray from original spiritual teachings. He highlights how these systems have been shaped by human desires for power and control, leading to a distortion of true faith.

False belief systems can create a spiritual Stockholm syndrome, where individuals unknowingly defend their own bondage. Tom discusses how these systems manipulate believers into accepting constraints that limit their spiritual growth and understanding. The conversation reveals the subtle ways in which these beliefs are perpetuated and the challenges faced by those seeking to break free.

The episode offers hope and guidance for those feeling trapped by false beliefs. Tom emphasizes the importance of personal exploration and a return to the core tenets of faith, encouraging listeners to question and seek truth beyond the confines of established doctrines. By embracing a more authentic spiritual journey, believers can find liberation and a deeper connection with their faith.

“Set the Captives Free” is not just a book title but a call to action for those seeking spiritual liberation. This episode invites listeners to reflect on their own beliefs and consider the possibility of a faith unburdened by false constructs. Join us in this transformative conversation and take the first step towards spiritual freedom.

Subscribe now to stay updated on future episodes and continue your journey towards a more authentic faith. Is the Church Keeping You Trapped Without You Knowing?

Finding Hope and Healing: Navigating the Journey from Sexual Trauma

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Healing from sexual trauma is a deeply personal journey that requires courage, support, and understanding. In our recent conversation on Thrive by The Rising Muse, with Tabitha Westbrook, a licensed trauma therapist and author, we explored the pathways to restoration and hope. Her insights offer a beacon of light for those seeking healing.

Understanding the Urgency:
Tabitha emphasizes the critical need to address sexuality after trauma. “People are realizing and reckoning with the harm they’ve experienced,” she notes, highlighting the importance of movements like Me Too in creating safe spaces for survivors to share their stories.

The Role of Faith and Community:
Faith and community play pivotal roles in the healing process. Tabitha shares, “God is also a God of how and practicality,” underscoring the importance of practical steps and community support in the journey towards healing.


Building Healthy Relationships:
A key aspect of healing is learning to build healthy relationships. Tabitha advises, “Prioritize friendship first, and good things will come from that.” Understanding and respecting boundaries are essential in fostering connections that support healing.

Healing from sexual trauma is not a linear path, but with faith, community, and a commitment to personal growth, it is possible to find hope and restoration. As Tabitha reminds us, “The same God that brought me out, He can bring you out.”
Tabitha Westbrook, LMFT-S, LCMHC-QS, LPC-S, is a licensed therapist who helps people who have messy, funky pasts (and sometimes messy, funky presents) live amazing, empowered lives today. In addition to being a licensed counselor and supervisor, Tabitha is an EMDR Certified Therapist and Approved Consultant, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and Certified Christian Trauma Care Provider. 

She’s the Founder & CEO of The Journey and The Process, a private practice with offices in North Carolina and Texas, specializing in complex trauma, with a focus on domestic abuse and coercive control. Tabitha’s a nationally known expert and speaker on domestic abuse & coercive control, providing training to churches, therapists, and agencies. She also helps train domestic abuse advocates through Called to Peace Ministries’ faith-based advocacy training, as well as co-facilitates the G5 Men’s Batterer Intervention Group. Tabitha is the author of the forthcoming book Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control.


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Easter The Old Fashion Way

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In the last few weeks there’s been a lot of controversies about the closure of places of worship due to the cornonavirus situation. Most places of worship have determined on their own to move their services online. Others have challenge the recommendations for social distancing.

I was watching pastor Rick Warren, from Saddleback Chuch in California, speaking on CNN and he said some things that really resonated with the way I view this issue.

He mentioned that pastors are not only responsible for leading the sheep, but also to protect it. And he also reminded people that on the first Resurrection day, the apostles were at home, in fear and Jesus came to them, right where they were.

While they were still talking about this, Jesus himself stood among them and said to them, “Peace be with you.”

 They were startled and frightened, thinking they saw a ghost. He said to them, “Why are you troubled, and why do doubts rise in your minds? Look at my hands and my feet. It is I myself! Touch me and see; a ghost does not have flesh and bones, as you see I have.”

When he had said this, he showed them his hands and feet. And while they still did not believe it because of joy and amazement, he asked them, “Do you have anything here to eat?” They gave him a piece of broiled fish, and he took it and ate it in their presence.He said to them, “This is what I told you while I was still with you: Everything must be fulfilled that is written about me in the Law of Moses, the Prophets and the Psalms.” Luke 34:36-44

The early church didn’t have a specific building to worship. The Holy Spirit is in us and the Word says that where there’s two or more of us together in his name, He is there. And if you’re like me, where there’s no other with me, the fact that I can join an online community makes it the “two or more of us” .

Here’s an article from Bible Truths that you may enjoy about the early church gatherings.

Is it different than worshiping with our friends and family? Yes, of course. At the same time, I don’t think we should place limits on God. How many people have gotten saved just by listening to an old teaching, or watching a TV show? The power of God is not limited by distance. We have the advantage to still congregate, just through other means.

Please be wise, for yourself, your family and those around you. Our celebration this year, will look a lot like the first resurrection day. Let the light of Jesus reach us where we are.

Stay safe!

Naty

Becoming the church

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The beginning of a year is a good time for reflection and planning for the future. 2012 was a hard year and we saw in many ways how the church was either an important part or absent in those events that we experienced.

So in a society that is visibly degrading progressively, we as believers have to ask ourselves where is the church. On my last post I talked a little about who the church is and the importance that the church has for Jesus Christ. He is the one we say we follow and worship. But the bottom line is that WE are the church. The church is not a building or even an institution. Every time one of us makes the decision to follow Christ we become the church.

The word “church” as rendered in the New Testament comes from the Greek term ekklesia which is formed from two Greek words meaning “an assembly” and “to call out” or “called out ones.” In summary, the New Testament church is a body of believers who have been called out from the world by God to live as his people under the authority of Jesus Christ.

So when we ask where the church in the tragedies, the sadness and the scandals was the question really is, where was I? How did I contribute to this situation? Was I an element of healing or part of the problem?

You may wonder, what is it required from us. To love others as we love ourselves.

Don’t know where to start. I’ll give you a good starting point.

Follow Matthew 25:34-40

“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

“Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

Until then, be blessed

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Call to sanity: Bishop Eddie Long

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I really didn’t think I was going to address this subject, but the more I hear about it, I feel compelled to do it. I’m talking about the situation that Bishop Eddie Long is being named in.

 I think as Christians we have lost perspective. Part of the reason why I didn’t think it was a matter worth talking about is because this is a legal issue between the accusers and the accused. Yes, Bishop Eddie Long comes on television. He’s still a human being and so are the young men who are involved in this process. I do recognize that is sad to see Christians involved in things that go against our beliefs, but we can’t lose perspective these are human beings as well. Sin is sin; lies, abuse, murder, adultery, stealing is all the same in the eyes of God. “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone” John 8:7

 It comes down to this…someone needs to repent and someone needs to forgive, end of the story! I don’t know who is guilty or who is not and it’s not my place to know. I know that if justice is not obtained on earth it definitely will be achieved in heaven, so all I hope is for a transparent and honest process from both parts and that whoever did comes forward with the truth and repentance and who ever received the offense is ready to forgive.

 Why did I decide to write this? I’ve heard of fellow Christians enraged by the situation, which it’s understandable, but I think we are focused on the wrong thing. Our duty right now is to pray for all the parts. For those who are near Bishop Long and the young men, they need to pray for wisdom to give adequate counsel and to determine where God wants them to be at this moment in time. We all need to pray for a congregation that is hurting because of these allegations.  

 I have never stepped a foot on New Birth Missionary Baptist Church, but I feel for all the people in the congregation, because I can understand that they are hurting. This is their time to look to God and not towards men for their answers.

 I love my pastors. I’ve been part of my church family for 5 years now and I have a great respect for my leaders. I do recognize that they are humans and that just like me they can fail and that because of their visibility their attacks are way bigger than mine. I pray that God covers their every step, but if tomorrow something was to come out, true or not, my pain needs to turn into prayer because I can not forget that before they are my pastors they are souls to the Lord. Isn’t that what we as Christians are called to do?  Isn’t our job to go after the lost? I don’t know who is lost in this case and as it’s not my job to judge, so I don’t care. I do exhort everyone to pray for ALL; Bishop Long and the young men that have filed these accusations. Both sides are hurting, and both sides are important to the Lord.

 Be blessed.