Embracing Change – Naty Matos

Amid life’s challenges, gratitude is often the last emotion we feel. Whether it’s physical or emotional pain, navigating through difficulties is never an easy task. However, as we reflect on our journey, we may find that these trials bear fruit, offering us invaluable lessons and growth.

The Control Freak’s Journey:

“I am controlling. I like to plan. I like to know when, what, who, how, and where… all the time.” How many of us can relate to this sentiment? God often places us in situations where we must surrender, throw our hands in the air, and say, “Whatever you want, God.” It’s a journey filled with improvement, setbacks, and the constant need for reminders.

Desires of the Heart:

We’ve all heard the scripture about God granting the desires of our hearts. Yet, timing can be an issue. God may withhold a desire not because it’s not meant for us, but because we aren’t ready to receive it. Be cautious in asking God to protect us while robbing a bank or to dissolve someone else’s marriage for our own desires. I assure you that’s not part of his will.

Unexpected Blessings:

My greatest desire—to become a mother. The journey wasn’t as expected, not in the timing, circumstances, or package I envisioned. Yet, it turned out to be perfect. The lesson? God’s plans are often beyond our understanding, and His timing is always perfect, even if we don’t see it at first.

Rejection and Growth:

When faced with rejection, like being passed over for a promotion multiple times, it may be a clue to move on to a place that appreciates our talents. Every experience teaches us something, ensuring that nothing learned is in vain. Just like in the movie “Karate Kid,” where Mr. Miyagi’s unconventional training methods turned out to be invaluable lessons for Daniel, God often works similarly. The challenges we face today are the lessons we need for a better life in the future.

Seeking God’s Lessons:

Ask God today, “What are you trying to teach me in this season?” By embracing challenges with faith, we open ourselves to the possibility of learning valuable lessons that will shape our future.

Life’s challenges may seem overwhelming, but through gratitude, faith, and an openness to learning, we can navigate them with strength and resilience. Just like the writer’s journey of surrendering control and embracing unexpected blessings, our own stories may unfold in ways we never imagined. Until next time, be blessed on your journey of growth and faith.

Change is the only constant in life, an undeniable truth that shapes our journey in unpredictable ways. Some changes bring joy and fulfillment, like new relationships, homes, or jobs, while others, such as health issues or the loss of a loved one, can be painful and challenging to accept. Regardless of the nature of change, it leaves an indelible mark on our lives, and it’s crucial to recognize that it’s okay to take the time to process and grieve the losses associated with these shifts.

In my own life, I’ve encountered numerous changes, both positive and challenging. There were times when I wished I could seamlessly transition to the next chapter without acknowledging the impact of the change. However, the truth is that when a part of our world changes, it’s not only okay but necessary to pause, reflect on the lessons learned, grieve the loss, and then embrace the next phase.

Grief is a personal journey, and the pace of life may not always allow for an extended period of mourning. Yet, even amid new activities and responsibilities, it’s essential to carve out time to acknowledge and process our feelings. It’s important to choose wisely whom we share our grief with, as not everyone may be equipped to handle it. Selecting supportive and understanding individuals to confide in can make a significant difference in the healing process.

Journaling, prayer, and meditation can be powerful tools during times of change. Turning to our faith, we find solace in knowing that Jesus is always there to listen and comfort us. The scriptures offer guidance and assurance that, even in the face of change, we are not alone.

Interestingly, grief can accompany positive changes as well. Take the example of marriage—a joyous occasion that still requires adjustments. As someone accustomed to a solitary routine, sharing space with a life partner necessitated adapting to a new way of life. Even in moments of celebration, it’s okay to acknowledge and process the adjustments that come with change.

Consider professional advancements or finding your dream home. While these changes are undoubtedly positive, it doesn’t diminish the fact that you may grieve aspects of your previous situation. It’s not ungratefulness; it’s a natural part of the adjustment process.

In my personal journey, transitioning from a job I held for 18 years presented a significant challenge. Despite past experiences of being laid off and quickly finding my way back, this time was different. Accepting that the next opportunity might not mirror the past has been a profound adjustment.

I have a friend facing an even more profound change—her son being sentenced to life in prison. While he is physically present, she mourns the loss of the relationship they once shared and the dreams she had for his future. Life changes, whether big or small, deserve acknowledgment and the space to grieve.

As I reflect on my own journey, I’ve found solace in maintaining a gratitude journal. It’s an extension of the 15-day challenge to a stronger you. If you’re interested in exploring this tool for navigating life’s changes, click on the link below. Embrace change with faith, gratitude, and the belief that every transformation is an opportunity for growth.

So, as you navigate the twists and turns of life, give yourself the grace to adjust and grieve as needed. There’s no shame in taking the time to process change, and never let anyone tell you otherwise.

Until next time, be blessed!