When Love Meets Uncertainty: Standing in Faith After 40 Years Together

Forty years. More than four decades of holding hands through every chapter of life—raising children, building careers, weathering storms, laughing until tears fell, and learning from one another in ways no one else ever could. After that much time with someone, they become more than a spouse. They are your rhythm, your safe place, your steady.

And then suddenly… they’re in a hospital bed. All the strength they carried for years feels a world away.

For so long, I watched him work 16-hour shifts, seven days a week. I saw him stand strong—providing, protecting, and pouring himself out without complaint. He was dependable, resilient, unshakable—my earthly rock. And now, in this new season of retirement—when we imagined rest, travel, peace, and quiet—we’re facing battles we never saw coming: spiritual attacks, physical assaults on his body, weakness where there once was strength.

And the truth is…

It does something to your heart.

The Thoughts No One Wants to Admit

When your spouse is hospitalized, your mind becomes a battlefield.

What if he doesn’t recover the same?
What if this is the beginning of another long fight?
Will he be okay?
Will I have the strength to care for him the way he cared for us for so long?
Will God give us more time together?

No matter how old we get, no matter how many anniversaries we’ve celebrated…

It’s never enough time.

Not when you love someone this deeply.

You begin replaying memories—young love, early mornings, late-night conversations, road trips, holidays, and the moments that shaped your life together. You hold his hand tighter, noticing the warmth, the pulse, the gift of breath. And in the quiet moments between doctor visits and lab results, there’s a whisper in your spirit:

“Lord, I trust You. Even in this.”

When Faith Becomes More Than Words

It’s easy to say “God is good” when life feels steady. It’s different when fear presses on your chest in a hospital room.

But this is exactly where faith becomes real.
Where trust becomes a choice.
Where love deepens beyond comfort.

Psalm 73:26 reminds us:

“My flesh and my heart may fail,
but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever.”

Even when bodies grow weak, God’s strength does not.
Even when hearts feel fragile, His hands hold everything together.

Choosing Trust in the Middle of the Unknown

I don’t know what tomorrow holds. I don’t know how long we will have together. I don’t know what this season will require from me—or from him.

But here’s what I do know:

God has been faithful for every one of these 40+ years.
He has walked with us through storms, disappointments, and miracles.
He carried us when we didn’t know how to move forward.

And I know—deep in my soul—that He is carrying us now.

So I choose trust.

Trust that God will strengthen his body.
Trust that God will equip me to care for him.
Trust that God is not finished with our story.
Trust that love is stronger than fear.
Trust that whatever time we are given—whether many more years or just one more precious day—God will be in the midst of it.

Still Standing on His Promises

In this season, I hold tightly to Isaiah 41:10:

“Fear not, for I am with you;
be not dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, I will help you,
I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”

And so, even here—in hospital halls and waiting rooms—I stand on His promises, trusting that the same God who carried us through forty years is faithful to carry us through this one.

V. Green

Trusting God or Telling Him What to Do? A Heart Check for Believers

We say we trust God. We quote Proverbs 3:5–6:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”
But if we’re honest, many of us are doing more leaning on our understanding than we admit. We often try to sit in God’s chair, crafting our own plans, and then asking Him to rubber-stamp them with His blessing.

How often do our prayers sound less like surrender and more like strategy meetings?

“God, Let Me In on the Plan.”

Many of us live like we’re entitled to God’s full blueprint. We forget that faith, by definition, involves the unseen (Hebrews 11:1).
We say, “I trust You,” but then we beg for full disclosure:

“Lord, show me exactly what You’re doing, when You’re doing it, and how it will all turn out.”

But God doesn’t always offer that level of detail—not because He’s withholding, but because He’s cultivating trust. Isaiah 55:8–9 reminds us:
“‘For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,’ declares the Lord. ‘As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.’”

Faith doesn’t require all the details. It requires trust in the One who holds them.

“God, Let Me Take the Wheel.”

Sometimes, we take action first and pray later, when the consequences catch up. We might even spiritualize it:

“I’m stepping out in faith.”
But were we really? Or were we stepping out in impatience?

Abraham and Sarah tried to “help” God by orchestrating a plan to fulfill His promise through Hagar (Genesis 16). The result? Generational strife. God’s promises don’t need human manipulation. They need patient trust.

“God, Bless My Mess.”

Even when we’ve gone our own way, God is merciful. But how often do we expect Him to bless decisions made without Him?

James 4:13–15 cautions us against presumption:
“Now listen, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city…’ Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow… Instead, you ought to say, ‘If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.’”

Inviting God into our plans after they’ve failed isn’t the same as surrender. It’s triage. He may still redeem, but it’s far better to build with Him from the start.

Real Trust Looks Like Surrender

Trust is not passive—it’s deeply active. It looks like praying before deciding, seeking God’s heart before our own will, and obeying even when the path is unclear.

Psalm 37:5 puts it simply:
“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.”

Let’s stop trying to get God on board with our plans. Let’s get on board with His.

Finding Purpose Through the Storm

What if every trial, every storm, and every heartbreak in your life led you toward something greater? What if the pain you’ve endured wasn’t meant to break you but to prepare you for your purpose?

In our latest episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, we sit down with the incredible Bambi Makowski—a mother, grandmother, storyteller, and author whose journey is nothing short of extraordinary. From overcoming personal trauma to impacting lives one door at a time, Bambi’s testimony is a powerful reminder that faith can turn brokenness into beauty.

🚪 Knocking on Doors, Changing Lives
Bambi shares how her years working with Nielsen TV Ratings and the Census Bureau taught her the power of human connection. Each door she knocked on held a different story—some heartbreaking, some inspiring, but all life-changing. Through these encounters, she learned to see people beyond their circumstances and embrace the beauty in every journey.

💔 From Trauma to Triumph
Bambi opens up about the darkest moments of her life when she felt unseen and unheard. But she also reveals the incredible ways that God stepped in, time and time again, transforming her pain into purpose. Her story is raw, unfiltered, and filled with moments that will leave you speechless.

🙏 Faith, Healing, and the Power of Sharing Your Story
In this episode, we discuss why sharing our stories is essential for healing, how God never wastes our pain, and why embracing our scars can lead to true freedom. Bambi reminds us that our past does not define us—God does.

Bambi is a mother of six, grandmother to thirteen—and counting!—a passionate storyteller, and an author of two published books with more on the way. Her journey hasn’t been easy, but through every trial, she’s found purpose and hope. You can reach her on her website Healing Through Stories.

🔥 You Don’t Want to Miss This!
This conversation is one of the most powerful we’ve had on the podcast. It’s real. It’s vulnerable. It’s inspiring. If you’ve ever questioned your worth, struggled with trauma, or wondered if God has a purpose for your pain—this episode is for you.

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Let us know your thoughts! What part of Bambi’s story resonated with you the most? Drop a comment or send us a message—we’d love to hear from you!

When the World Feels Unstable, How Do We Thrive?

Life is unpredictable; right now, it feels like we’re all riding a wave of uncertainty. In our latest episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, we take off the script and get real—no filters, no outlines, just raw conversation about the struggles many face today. We’re calling it Thrive Raw because sometimes, we just need to speak from the heart.

From massive job layoffs to skyrocketing grocery prices to the weight of mental health struggles—these are more than just headlines. They’re real-life battles people are fighting every single day. In this episode, we unpack the emotions, the fears, and the faith it takes to move forward when life throws the unexpected our way.

So, what do you do when your security is shaken? How do you hold on when it feels like you’re losing everything? More importantly, where is God in all of this? We’re diving deep into these questions and offering encouragement, real talk, and most of all, hope.

Why you need to listen:
✔️ Raw, unfiltered conversation about the struggles happening right now.
✔️ Faith-centered encouragement for anyone feeling lost or overwhelmed.
✔️ Practical advice on how to move forward, find purpose, and rebuild.
✔️ A heartfelt message about the value of your life, no matter your circumstances.

If you or someone you love has been affected by job loss, financial uncertainty, or feelings of hopelessness, we want you to know that you are not alone. Join us for this powerful episode, and let’s navigate these storms together.

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Let’s keep thriving—together.

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