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Embracing Change with Faith and Understanding: Introducing Rising Muse on Substack

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In these times of rapid change and shifting social landscapes, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of transformation happening all around us. Whether you find yourself aligned with these shifts or feeling a sense of unease, one truth remains clear: we are living in a period of profound transition.

Change, by its very nature, can be unsettling. It challenges long-held beliefs and forces us to re-evaluate the very fabric of our society. For those who are struggling with the pace of change, know that your feelings are valid. It is perfectly natural to feel apprehensive, confused, or even frustrated when faced with uncertainty.

At the same time, for those who embrace these changes, it is crucial to extend compassion and understanding to those who may see the world differently. Every individual is on their own journey of understanding, shaped by unique experiences and perspectives. Engaging in respectful dialogue, listening with an open heart, and seeking common ground can help bridge divides and foster a more inclusive and empathetic society.

The Bible provides wisdom for navigating such times: “Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.” (Philippians 4:5). This verse encourages us to approach others with kindness, patience, and understanding, recognizing that everyone is working through their own beliefs and challenges.

In the spirit of fostering meaningful conversations and exploring these complex issues, we are thrilled to introduce The Rising Muse on Substack! Our new platform will serve as a space to delve deeper into topics of faith, family, and mental health—areas that are essential to navigating today’s world with grace and wisdom.

At The Rising Muse, we believe that through open dialogue, shared experiences, and faith-centered discussions, we can find strength and clarity in times of uncertainty. Our goal is to create a community where we can learn, grow, and support one another as we embrace the changes that life presents.

We invite you to be part of this journey by subscribing to our Substack, engaging with our content, and joining in on the conversations that matter. Your support enables us to continue building a space for thought-provoking discussions and spiritual growth. Together, let’s walk this path with faith, understanding, and a commitment to kindness.

Subscribe today and be a part of The Rising Muse—where faith meets change, and understanding leads to transformation. See you there!

The Grinch, Redemption, and the Power of Christmas Kindness

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One of my favorite movies is The Grinch There are several versions of this movie. My favorite one is Jim Carrey’s version. However, the little one in my house prefers the 2018 animated version. Needless to say, we have seen it multiple times since this holiday season started. It has me thinking about how much deeper meaning this movie has and how it shows the true meaning of Christmas.

This is a special town where everyone, regardless of their challenges, is happy and united. And then there’s the Grinch. The Grinch doesn’t hate Christmas for it’s meaning, he hates it because he’s in pain. Think about it, if you look at all the contraptions inside his house, he seems to be very smart, creative and ingenious. It is not like he couldn’t be a productive member of society. He chose to isolate out of his own feelings of rejection, abandonment and sadness

The Grinch is an unhappy, grouchy character, one that we can identify in our daily lives. But if you look beyond the surface, why is he so angry and grouchy?

Childhood trauma:

Let’s start with the fact that his parents abandoned him in an orphanage. He doesn’t like seeing others happy because all he has experienced is despair. His meanness is just a façade and a way to keep people away. Since he was abandoned, he has come to the conclusion that he’s unlovable. We have all heard how “hurt people, hurt people”; the Grinch is the perfect example of this.

Loneliness

He’s all alone, yes do to his own making, but it’s partially because he doesn’t want to be vulnerable with his feelings. His hatred of the holiday was nothing but jealousy of the people of Whoville and their ability to connect with others. Think about all the scenes where he looks through the windows of Whoville, he’s not angry, he’s sad, almost in the verge of tears.

However, the Grinch is not a soulless unaffectionate being. He has his dog Max whom he loves and for who he takes good care of. The way he let the mammoth sleep in the bed with him. How he lets Fred go when his family came to get him (although that was a double edge sword as he felt abandoned again)

When Dr. Seus talks about the Grinch having a heart two sizes too small, it was a metaphor to his affections not a “biological” heart.

Kindness always wins at the end. It was the kindness of Cindy Lou and realizing that Christmas was way more than decorations and presents that changes the heart of the Grinch. This is a lesson to us all. On a day like today where people have commercialize this holiday so much that we have lost sight of what Christmas is really about. It’s about Jesus’s birth, but what Jesus came to earth to bring for us: salvation, forgiveness and love.

Redemption

The grinch shows how we really should go about forgiveness. He admts his wrong. He made amends by returning what he stole. He left expecting nothing from those who he wrong. He then receives forgiveness when Cindy Lou invites him over for dinner.

Have you thought about the grinches in your life and why are they the way they are? No, we’re not responsible for other people’s behaviors but we can be the catalyst of change by being kind with every interaction you have with them. Will they change, who knows? But you may be the seed that let’s their hearts grow? His last words in the movie, where that Cindy Lou’s kindness changed his life. Whose life could we be changing with just an act of kindness.

Being Loving, Kind, and Merciful: Does Not Mean I’m a Doormat

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As followers of Christ, we are called to embody love, kindness, and mercy. These attributes reflect God’s character and demonstrate His grace to the world. However, those with a tender heart may face challenges, including being taken for granted or used. How can we balance showing mercy with guarding our hearts?

The Call to Love, Kindness, and Mercy

Jesus set the ultimate example of love, kindness, and mercy. In Matthew 5:7, He says, “Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.” Reflecting on the call to clothe ourselves with compassion, Colossians 3:12-14 reminds us: “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another… And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” Living this way reflects Christ’s love and draws others to Him. Yet, we must also walk in wisdom, as Jesus instructs in Matthew 10:16: “Be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves.”

Avoiding Being Taken for Granted

  1. Set Healthy Boundaries: Loving others doesn’t mean allowing them to misuse your kindness. Jesus Himself set boundaries, withdrawing to pray and rest when needed (Luke 5:16). He invites us to find rest for our souls in Him, saying in Matthew 11:28-30, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
  2. Discern Motives: Pray for discernment to recognize when someone genuinely needs help versus taking advantage of your kindness. Philippians 1:9-10 says, “And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best.”
  3. Speak the Truth in Love: When necessary, confront those who misuse your kindness with gentleness and respect. Ephesians 4:15 urges us to speak the truth in love, ensuring we build others up. As Proverbs 27:6 states, “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.”
  4. Rely on God’s Strength: Acts of mercy must flow from God’s love, not human approval. Galatians 6:9 encourages us, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Depend on God’s Spirit, as Zechariah 4:6 reminds us, “Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the Lord Almighty.”

Trusting God as Your Defender

Even when others misunderstand or misuse your kindness, take heart in knowing that God sees your heart. Psalm 62:6 declares, “Truly he is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.” Rest in His promise from Exodus 14:14: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Trust Him to vindicate you and provide the strength to continue loving others.

In all things, let Jesus’ words in John 13:34-35 guide you: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” As you navigate the balance of kindness and boundaries, let your actions glorify God, reflect His love, and steward the gifts He has entrusted to you.

Faith in Action: The Power of Everyday Acts of Kindness

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In a world often overwhelmed by grand gestures and larger-than-life displays of faith, it’s easy to forget the profound impact that small acts of kindness can have on our spiritual journey. While we are saved by grace and not by works, our transformed faith should manifest in the daily choices we make. As the saying goes, faith without works is dead, and sometimes it’s the little things that speak volumes about the state of our hearts.

Here are some examples of acts of kindness we can practice in our daily lives:

1. Picking Up After Yourself:
At a restaurant, it may seem insignificant to clean up after yourself, especially when there are staff members assigned for that task. However, taking a moment to clear your table not only lightens their load but also reflects a consideration for those who work tirelessly in the service industry. This simple act exemplifies humility and selflessness, mirroring the teachings of Christ.
Luke 22:26 (ESV) – “But not so with you. Rather, let the greatest among you become as the youngest, and the leader as one who serves.”

2. Starting the Coffee:
In the morning rush at home or the office, being the one to start the coffee can be a small yet impactful gesture. Even if you don’t drink coffee yourself, the act of preparing it for others demonstrates a selfless attitude and a willingness to serve without expecting anything in return.
Philippians 2:4 (NIV) – “Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others.”

3. Sharing the Sale:
When you come across a sale or a buy-one-get-one-free offer, consider sharing the extra item with someone in need. This could be a struggling family or a neighbor facing financial challenges. Such generosity not only helps others practically but also opens the door for meaningful conversations or anonymous acts of kindness.
1 John 3:17 (NLT) – “If someone has enough money to live well and sees a brother or sister in need but shows no compassion—how can God’s love be in that person?”

4. Volunteering Without Recognition:
Being the one who consistently volunteers to help, even if it goes unnoticed or unappreciated by others, is a powerful way to put your faith into action. Remember, you are not working for the acknowledgment of people but for the Lord, and your humble service reflects the heart of Christ.
Colossians 3:23-24 (NIV) – “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”

Engaging in these small acts of kindness on a daily basis is not just about making the world a better place; it’s also a means of deepening our spiritual journey. These actions serve as tangible expressions of our faith, helping us die to ourselves and become more Christlike. By imitating Christ in our daily lives, we learn to love sacrificially, putting the needs of others before our own.

In the grand tapestry of our spiritual journey, the threads of everyday acts of kindness weave a story of love, humility, and selflessness. While the kingdom of God certainly encompasses grand missions and transformative projects, it is equally built on the foundation of small, consistent acts of love and service. So, as you embark on your faith journey, remember that it’s not always about the magnitude of your actions but the sincerity and love behind them. If you’re looking for a way to kickstart your faith in action, consider taking the Act of Kindness Challenge , in the “15 Day Challenge to a Stronger YOU“, and witness the transformation in yourself as you strive towards a stronger, more compassionate you.

Kindness

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I couldn’t find in the dictionary a satisfying definition of kindness. The synonyms I found were a little bit more relatable to an understanding of what this is. I found that generosity, charity sympathy, compassion and tenderness are some of those things that are compared to kindness.

 The word of God calls us to be kind to one another and to love one another, including our enemies. I think this is where it gets tricky. Loving our families and friends is almost normal, even on our bad days. Loving someone who is not particularly nice to us or that has hurt us can be a very challenging thing. However I learned first hand the power of how a kind heart can change your relationship with someone who right now you wish you didn’t even have to see.

Years ago, I worked with this lady. To my recollection I had not done anything to her and she had not done anything to me; but it was obvious to me that my presence was a thorn in her life. She would try to avoid any kind of interaction with me. If she had to talk to me, her tone would show her frustration in our interaction. I’m the type of person who tries to be liked, so the situation didn’t sit well with me. For months I prayed that whatever was bothering her life would be lifted, that she would be blessed, that she would find the love of God; I didn’t know if she was a believer or not.

One day, I was having a personal trial. She came to my desk and said “ I know I’m not your friend, but if you need someone to talk to, know that I’m here for you”. It totally blew my mind. Before she left my desk she left a small box. Inside the box there was a little plaque that to this day stays with me wherever I go. The plaque read, “there’ nothing that God and I can’t resolve together”.  It was double amazing for me and totally spirit lifting. The message in the plaque had given me hope and it came from the person I least expected. I will say that after that day our relationship changed. I’m not saying that she became my best friend, but we were able to talk amicably and if memory serves we went to dinner once within a group of friends.

 What act of kindness can you do today for someone whose personality or actions rub you the wrong way? Are you willing to make an impact in someone’s life, just by providing a smile? Take the challenge, it’s always rewarding.

Blessings

Naty

Traditions

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Traditions are those beliefs and/or customs that have been passed down from generation to generation. One of the best examples is our celebration of Christmas. We celebrate Christmas on December 25th, as the day that Jesus was born, but historically it has been agreed that he was born closer to the month of April. You can hear people say that you can’t celebrate Christmas without a tree or decorations; the truth is those are merely distractions, there were no trees or decorations at the manger when Jesus was born.

 Traditions have colored the way we do things and have distracted us from the real meaning. In terms of holidays, I boycotted traditional Christmas last year and don’t get me started on Easter. All my readers have five minutes to explain to me the relationship between eggs, bunnies and the resurrection… Go ahead, I can wait!

 There are people who have chosen careers because it’s a tradition in their family for everyone to be a doctor, a teacher, a lawyer, or a policeman.  Some people go to a certain college because that’s where their family members went, not because it has the best program for their interests.

God made us unique. He took his time to form each and every one of us, and every one of us has See full size imagea different purpose in the body of Christ. Following traditions, in my humble opinion, are not either good or bad, unless of course the tradition harms the person or others; but it’s not necessary in the implementation of God’s plan for us. We need to ask ourselves what opportunities we have wasted because that’s not what we usually do, the way we usually do it, or the way the people around us did it?

How about when our blessing comes in a different package than what we are used to or expecting, and because we’re not familiar with it we pass it right by? Can you believe that the greatest lesson of marital love I learned from a homeless man? I was part of a ministry that was feeding the homeless. This man came to our line and grabbed his portion of food; something in him caught my attention. All the others sat in front of where we were and ate, he ran with his food to hide. Another person from the ministry and I followed him at a distance, his wife was under some boxes sleeping, probably after heavy drug use. She was very weak, he told her that he had brought her something and lifts her head up with his arms and started feeding her his food. We told them that we had enough for him to eat too. He thanked us but told us that he had come to the line just to make sure that she would get something to eat.  When I think about how a husband should love his wife, I think of them. It was not wrapped up in the prettiest package, but it blessed me. How many lessons or blessings have we missed because of our pre-conceived notions and traditions?