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Shame Detox: How to Recognize Toxic Shame and Start Healing at the Root

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Have you ever caught yourself over-apologizing for simply taking up space, obsessing over a minor mistake, or feeling like no matter how much you accomplish, it is never quite enough? What if the loudest, harshest voice inside your head isn’t actually yours?

In our latest episode of Thrive, we sit down for a deeply raw, eye-opening conversation about the invisible weight so many of us carry: toxic shame.

Shame doesn’t just make you feel bad—it quietly rewrites your identity. It influences how you date, parent, communicate, and even how you pray. If you have ever felt trapped in a endless loop of perfectionism, performance, or self-criticism, this conversation was recorded specifically for you.

Here is a glimpse of what we unpack in this powerful episode, and why you need to tune in today.

1. What Shame Actually Is (And Why It’s Not Guilt)

Before you can heal shame, you have to define it. In the episode, we break down the critical difference between the signals your mind sends you:

  • Guilt says: “I did something wrong.”
  • Healthy shame says: “That behavior doesn’t align with who I want to be.”
  • Toxic shame says: “I am wrong.”

Toxic shame doesn’t just correct your actions; it attacks who you are. We discuss how shame is deeply embodied—triggering physical threat states like elevated cortisol, a tight chest, or avoided eye contact—and how to spot it when it masks itself as discipline or ambition.

2. How Shame Gets Installed Early

Children are not born believing they are defective. We explore the relational root causes—from emotional invalidation and public humiliation to fear-based messaging—that teach us to believe mistakes threaten our belonging.

When raised with discipline lacking emotional connection, a child internalizes a dangerous narrative: “If I fail, I lose love.” In this episode, we unpack how to recognize these early installations so you can finally stop passing them down.

3. How Shame Shows Up in Relationships & Marriage

Shame never stays buried; it leaks into adult life. It shows up as hyper-independence, emotional withdrawal, people-pleasing, or an anxious need to perform to be loved.

We also get real about relationships, appearance, and marriage. We talk through the hard truth that no milestone—no ring, baby, or house—can change another human being. You’ll learn how toxic shame makes you personalize relational problems (“If I were prettier or better, they’d treat me right”) and how to start grounding your worth in secure love rather than conditional acceptance.

4. Religious Trauma vs. True Grace

Why do so many people walk away from faith spaces? We tackle the heavy topic of religious trauma and shame-based theology.

From the double standards of public shaming to fear-based messaging, we contrast harmful institutional practices with the compassionate model set by Jesus with the woman at the well. You will learn the difference between godly conviction (which draws you toward repair and closeness) and self-condemnation (which pushes you into isolation and hiding).

5. Practical Steps to Detox Shame at the Root

Healing isn’t about pretending nothing happened; it’s about disrupting the belief system shame built. In this episode, we walk through actionable tools to help you:

  1. Name the Voice: Separate yourself from the critic, the prosecutor, or the old tape.
  2. Practice Self-Compassion: Move from self-attack to supportive self-talk.
  3. Reconnect with Your Body: Shift your posture, breathe, and allow yourself to be seen.
  4. Speak Truth to Safe People: Disarm shame by speaking it out loud in safe relationships.
  5. Rewrite Your Spiritual Narrative: Choose restoring grace over punishing condemnation.

Ready to Stop Hiding and Start Healing?

Healing is rarely instant—it’s about unlearning, building safety, and taking small steps toward freedom every single day. You are not a mistake, and you don’t have to carry this weight alone any longer.

🎧 Watch or listen to the full episode of Thrive now to begin your shame detox journey.

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Turning Pain into Purpose: Could your deepest suffering be your hidden superpower?

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Have you ever wondered if the very pain that seems to break you could actually be the catalyst for your greatest purpose? This question can feel impossibly heavy if you’re drowning in chronic illness, emotional turmoil, or a seemingly endless string of life-altering setbacks.

On our recent episode of The Rising Muse, we’re sharing a story that will shift everything you think you know about healing.

Meet Ashley Ondrick, the vibrant integrative nutrition health coach known online as the Mostly Healthy Chef. To look at her, you’d see joy and strength. But underneath her smile lies a reality many never guess: 20 years of relentless physical pain, 11 major surgeries (eight on her spine), and an unimaginable stroke triggered simply by her skull shifting off her spine.

What choice do you make when your body—and your world—completely breaks?

In this unforgettable interview, Ashley takes us into the dark, raw moments of loneliness, depression, and unworthiness that many chronic illness warriors recognize only too well. But this isn’t just a story about surviving trauma. It is a story about utilizing it.

Ashley doesn’t just tell us she found purpose. She shows us exactly how she did it.

Watch the full episode now to hear directly from Ashley on:

  • The ” Filipinx Typhoon” Moment: Why a devastating disaster (and some bold volunteer work) became the exact pressure cooker she needed to unlock her resilience.
  • Wrestling With God: A raw look at turning “timid prayer” into bold, messy declarations of trust, shifting her perspective from asking for relief to trusting in divine timing.
  • The “Mostly Healthy” Revelation: Her groundbreaking strategy for healing that doesn’t require perfection—including her recent personal 30-pound weight loss transformation using simple, manageable food swaps.
  • Practical Steps to Turn Pain into a Platform: Ashley provides actionable, small, consistent steps anyone can start taking today to move towards a healthier, more fulfilled life, regardless of where they are starting.

This is more than an interview; it’s a heartfelt guide reminding us that healing is a process, not a destination. Ashley’s approach is about sustainability, grace, and meeting yourself exactly where you are.

To reach Ashley:

www.mostlyhealthychef.com

www.amostlyhealthyblog.com

Your pain is not the end of your story—it is an invitation to rewrite it.

If you are ready to reframe your difficulties and find a clear path to healing and deep purpose, you cannot afford to miss this conversation.

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Stuck in Your Old Identity? The Shocking Truth About Why Your Brain Resists Change 🧠✨

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Are you holding onto parts of your past that no longer serve you? Do you feel stuck because you’re still dragging around an outdated identity?

If we are being completely honest, shedding old versions of ourselves is one of the hardest things we will ever do. Whether it’s emotional, mental, or spiritual, stepping into the next season of life always requires leaving an old part of yourself behind.

But why does it feel like an uphill battle? Why do we constantly slide back into old patterns even when we know they are hurting us?

In our latest episode, we dive deep into the raw, unspoken reality of personal transformation. We aren’t just giving you a checklist of “good habits”—we are breaking down the exact neuroscience and spiritual warfare behind why you feel so stuck.

Here is a sneak peek of what we unpack in the full conversation (and why you cannot afford to miss this episode):

1. The Grief of the “Old Self” (It’s Not What You Think)

When you start setting boundaries, healing from trauma, or saying “no” to things that drain you, you expect to feel liberated. Instead, you might feel a strange sense of sadness.

In the episode, we reveal a truth most people ignore: Releasing your old identity brings a literal grieving process. Even if your past was dysfunctional, it was familiar. It kept you safe. We discuss how to navigate this grief with grace instead of guilt.

2. “Neural Entrenchment” – Your Brain is Wired to Keep You Stuck

Ever wonder why you still react with anger, low self-worth, or critical self-talk in stressful moments? It’s not a lack of willpower; it’s biology.

We dive into the science of the basal ganglia—the part of the brain where habits are automatically stored. Your brain actually prefers a predictable, unhealthy pattern over an unpredictable, healthy one. In the video, we explain how to break this “neural entrenchment” and physically rewire your mind.

3. The Timeline of Transformation

You’ve probably heard that it takes 21 days to form a habit. That is a myth.

Neuroscience shows it actually takes anywhere from 18 to 254 days to solidify a new behavior. In the full episode, we share practical, daily strategies—including visual cues and accountability hacks—to help you survive the “emotional dips” of this timeline without giving up.

4. The Spiritual Breakthrough

God calls us to be new creations ($2 \text{ Corinthians } 5:17$), yet our flesh desperately fights to stay in survival mode.

We discuss the powerful intersection of psychology and scripture (like $Isaiah 43:18-19$), showing you how to partner with the Holy Spirit to transform from the inside out. Your growth isn’t a betrayal of your past; it’s a holy act of obedience.

🚨 Stop hiding, stop shrinking, and stop apologizing for your growth.

If you are ready to stop fighting your own brain, heal from the past, and boldly step into the person God designed you to be, this conversation was built for you.

Watch the full episode now to unlock the tools you need for lasting breakthrough!

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  • Drop a comment below: What is one old habit, mindset, or identity you are currently trying to let go of? Let’s talk about it!

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Your Beliefs Are Sabotaging Your Goals

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In a world where new goals and fresh starts are often celebrated, it’s easy to overlook the underlying beliefs that shape our lives. In our latest episode, we delve into the transformative power of core beliefs and how they can either propel us forward or keep us stuck in old cycles.

Understanding Core Beliefs

Core beliefs are the deep-seated perceptions we hold about ourselves and the world. They often form in childhood and can be so ingrained that we don’t even realize they’re there. These beliefs act as lenses through which we view our experiences, influencing our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

The Impact of Core Beliefs

Our episode explores how core beliefs can manifest in various aspects of life, from relationships to career choices. For instance, a belief of “I’m not enough” can lead to patterns of overworking or staying in toxic relationships. Recognizing these patterns is the first step towards change.

Rewriting the Narrative

We discuss practical tools for challenging and changing negative core beliefs. This involves identifying the lie, tracing its roots, and replacing it with truth. Repetition and community support play crucial roles in this transformative process.

As we journey through life, it’s essential to examine the beliefs that guide us. By rewriting the narratives that no longer serve us, we can embrace a life of authenticity and fulfillment. Subscribe now to stay updated on more insights and tools for personal growth.

Three Kings Day: Honoring the Journey, Not Just the Gift

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January 6th marks Three Kings Day, also known as Epiphany—the moment the Magi finally reached Jesus after a long, uncertain journey guided only by a star and faith that refused to let them turn back.

We often rush past this day, packing away the nativity and moving on to the next goal, the next resolution, the next task. But Three Kings Day invites us to pause—not at the destination—but at the journey.

Faith Isn’t Always a Straight Line

The Magi didn’t have a detailed map.
They didn’t know how long the road would be.
They didn’t have confirmation at every step.

They simply kept moving.

That’s important for us to remember as we step deeper into a new year. Faith doesn’t always feel confident. Sometimes it looks like asking questions, taking detours, or trusting God even when clarity hasn’t arrived yet.

Mental wellness and spiritual growth often work the same way. Healing, purpose, and alignment rarely come overnight. They unfold as we keep showing up—tired, hopeful, uncertain, but willing.

The Gifts We Bring Matter

The Magi brought gold, frankincense, and myrrh—gifts that symbolized kingship, divinity, and sacrifice. But what often gets overlooked is that the most powerful thing they offered wasn’t what they carried in their hands.

It was their obedience.
Their humility.
Their willingness to kneel.

As we reflect today, it’s worth asking:

  • What am I bringing into this season?
  • Am I offering God my trust—or just my plans?
  • Am I willing to surrender outcomes, not just intentions?

Sometimes the most meaningful gift we can bring is honesty—about our fears, our exhaustion, our hopes, and our need for guidance.

A Season of Revelation, Not Perfection

Epiphany is about revelation—God revealing Himself to the world. And revelation often comes quietly, through reflection rather than fireworks.

As you continue into this year, remember:
You don’t have to have everything figured out.
You don’t need to rush your growth.
You don’t need to compare your journey to anyone else’s.

Like the Magi, you are allowed to move at the pace of faith.

A Gentle Reflection for Today

Take a moment today to sit with these questions:

  • What “star” am I being asked to follow right now?
  • What distractions might I need to release?
  • What would it look like to trust God with the unknown parts of my life?

Three Kings Day reminds us that the journey itself is sacred—and that when we keep walking in faith, even imperfectly, we will arrive exactly where we’re meant to be.

Rediscovering Connection: Beyond the Screen in Military Life

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In today’s digital age, it’s easy to feel connected through our screens, yet many of us, especially military spouses, still experience a profound sense of loneliness. This paradox is particularly challenging for those in military life, who often find themselves far from family and friends. In our latest episode, we explore the importance of stepping beyond digital connections to embrace real-life interactions.

The Challenge of Digital Connectivity in Military Life

Beth Runkle shares her insights on how the convenience of digital communication can sometimes fall short of fulfilling our deeper social needs. While social media and texting keep us in touch, they can’t replace the warmth of face-to-face interactions. For military spouses, who frequently relocate and face long deployments, the need for personal connections is even more critical.

The Lost Art of Hospitality

Hospitality is more than just inviting someone into your home; it’s about inviting them into your heart. Beth discusses how the pressure for perfection often prevents us from opening our doors. She encourages military families to embrace the imperfections of their homes and focus on the connections they can build with others.

Taking the Initiative in Military Communities

Loneliness is an epidemic that affects many, regardless of age or background. Beth highlights the importance of taking the initiative to make the first move in forming friendships. Whether it’s inviting someone for coffee or organizing a small gathering, these efforts can lead to meaningful relationships that enrich our lives, especially within military communities.

As we navigate the complexities of modern life, let’s remember that true connection goes beyond the screen. By fostering genuine relationships and practicing hospitality, we can combat loneliness and build a supportive community. For those in military life, these connections are vital. Let’s take the first step towards rediscovering the power of real-life connections.

Beth Runkle is an author, speaker, and women’s ministry leader whose new devotional, Another Move, God? encourages military wives to embrace the life God’s called them to — even when that means constant change. After twenty-five years as a military wife, fourteen moves, and raising two children through four deployments, Beth learned that peace isn’t about control — it’s about trust. She and her husband now serve with Cru Military, mentoring young military couples and cadets.

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🦃 A Heartfelt Thank You, A Harvest of Gratitude, and Exciting New Horizons!

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Dear Thrive by The Rising Muse community,

As the calendar turns to November and the warmth of the holiday season approaches, I want to pause, take a deep breath, and extend my deepest, most heartfelt gratitude to each and every one of you. You—my dedicated listeners, wonderful guests, and engaged community members—are the true heart of this passion project.

🙏 Harvesting Our Shared Growth

Thanksgiving is a time for reflection, and as I look back on this journey, I am truly humbled. Your invaluable support, your willingness to share your stories, and your open-mindedness have been the fertilizer that has helped this community truly thrive. Watching our community grow from a seed of an idea into a vibrant ecosystem of personal growth and shared experiences has warmed my heart more than words can say.

Together, we are not just listening to a podcast; we are cultivating a beautiful journey. We’re exploring challenging topics, celebrating small victories, and committing to showing up as our best selves. Thank you for making this space one of genuine connection, inspiration, and mutual respect.

🚀 Exciting News: Tune In Wherever You Are!

We believe that cultivating personal growth should be convenient and accessible, no matter where your journey takes you. That’s why I am absolutely thrilled to announce that Thrive by The Rising Muse is now available on the incredible App Reveel platform!

This means you can now seamlessly integrate our episodes into your life, whether you’re relaxing on the couch, traveling, or just needing a boost of inspiration:

  • 💻 Direct Online Viewing: You can watch and listen to every episode right from your browser. Click here
  • 📺 On Your TV: Simply search for us on your Roku or Fire TV Stick.
  • 📱 On The Go: Download the App Reel app on your iOS or Android device.

Even more exciting news: Stay tuned, because App Reveel will soon be the exclusive home for special, exclusive episodes of the podcast, providing you with even deeper dives and unique content just for our community! Think extended interviews, behind-the-scenes glimpses, and focused Q&A sessions.

The App is FREE!

➡️ How to Connect with The Rising Muse Today

Getting started is easy! Choose the path that works best for you:

  1. Click Here to Watch Online
  2. Download the App Reveel App on your favorite device (search “App Reel”).
  3. Search for “Thrive by The Rising Muse” in the app. Or look for the show under the Reality TV Category
  4. Tap the follow/subscribe button and start listening!

Thank you once again for being the most supportive, inspiring part of this endeavor. I look forward to continuing to share our experiences, celebrating our growth, and connecting with you across these new platforms!

Warmest wishes for a happy and meaningful Thanksgiving season,

Thrive by The Rising Muse

Healing the Inner Child: A Journey to Wholeness

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In this episode of “Thrive by the Rising Muse,” hosts Naty and Veda explore the profound topic of healing the inner child. This conversation is not just about revisiting the past but about embracing the journey to emotional and spiritual wholeness. Naty and Veda share personal stories and insights, reminding us that the inner child is the part of us that holds both joy and pain, shaping who we become.

Understanding the Inner Child

Naty and Veda explain how childhood experiences, both joyful and painful, influence our adult lives. They emphasize the importance of acknowledging these memories to facilitate healing and personal growth. Steps to Healing: The episode outlines practical steps for healing, including acknowledging hurt, reparenting oneself, and setting boundaries. Naty and Veda share their personal journeys of forgiveness and the freedom it brings. Spiritual Insights: Drawing on scripture, they explore how faith and God’s love play a pivotal role in the healing process, providing hope and restoration.

Join us for this heartfelt episode as we explore the path to healing and thriving. Tune in to “Thrive by the Rising Muse” and embark on your journey to wholeness.

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Holistic Healing and Faith: A Journey Toward Wholeness

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In today’s fast-paced world, our minds, bodies, and spirits are often treated as separate parts of who we are. But what if true healing comes from seeing ourselves as whole beings? This is where holistic healing and faith integration meet—creating a path that brings balance, peace, and restoration.

On this week’s episode of Thrive by The Rising Muse, hosts Naty and Veda sit down with Melissa Armstrong, a former nurse turned holistic health coach, to explore how faith and wellness complement each other. Melissa opens up about her personal journey from traditional nursing into holistic health, sharing the ways trauma, emotional wounds, and nutrition all impact our well-being.

Together, they dive deep into the role of faith as a bridge that connects the inner world with the divine—allowing healing to flow naturally. Through practices like meditation, mindful living, and spiritual grounding, Melissa reminds us that healing isn’t just about fixing symptoms, but about restoring joy, balance, and connection.

✨ Key Takeaways from this Episode:

  • Trauma affects both the mind and the body—and healing requires tending to both.
  • Faith provides purpose, strength, and hope throughout the wellness journey.
  • Holistic practices like meditation, nutrition, and mindful living create harmony when integrated with spiritual beliefs.
  • Healing is a journey, not a destination, and every person is worthy of wholeness.

If you’ve ever wondered how faith and wellness can work together, this conversation will inspire and encourage you. Whether you’re seeking healing from trauma, looking for balance in your daily life, or simply curious about holistic health, this episode will leave you with powerful insights and practical steps forward.

To connect with Melissa, www.holistichealthbymelissa.com

🎧 Listen now and discover how faith and holistic healing can transform the way you see wellness and wholeness.

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How Heartbreak Can Help You Shine Bright!

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In a world where pain often feels insurmountable, the story of Shawna Foster offers a beacon of hope. Her journey from heartbreak to healing is a testament to the power of resilience and faith. As she shares, “What if the very fire that meant to destroy you became the light that guides you home?”

Shawna’s story is one of raw pain transformed into radical healing. She opens up about the heartbreaking experience of losing two children to parental alienation, a grief that reshapes the soul. Yet, through vulnerability, she finds strength. “Our stories are different,” she says, “and that’s fine. God knows the truth, and I’m just going to rest in that.”

Despite the challenges, Shawna emphasizes the importance of finding joy. A trip with her family became a turning point, allowing her to embrace the present and find happiness. “Just be happy with where you’re at and who’s here,” her son reminds her, highlighting the importance of gratitude.

Throughout her journey, Shawna’s faith remains a cornerstone. She speaks of the importance of prayer and trusting in a higher power. “The pain and suffering isn’t what He wants for us,” she shares. “He wants us to find grace and joy and peace and rest in Him.”

Shawna Foster is an inspiring author, speaker, and advocate for healing and transformation. Her powerful journey from trauma to hope is captured in her book, Faith in the Flames, where she shares her experiences of overcoming personal challenges, including the loss of her children to parental alienation. Shawna’s story is a testament to resilience, faith, and the transformative power of vulnerability. Through her work, she encourages others to embrace their own healing journeys and find joy amid adversity. She also writes for Christianity.com. She also hosts a podcast titled Faith in the Flames Podcast.

Shawna’s story is a powerful reminder that healing is possible, even in the darkest times. By embracing vulnerability, finding joy, and leaning on faith, we can transform trauma into a journey of healing and hope. As Shawna beautifully puts it, “Healing isn’t about erasing the pain; it’s about rising through it.”

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