Breaking Free from the Prison of Expectations

In the intricate dance of relationships, we often find ourselves stumbling over the unspoken expectations we place on others. It’s a familiar narrative – the silent anticipation that someone should intuitively understand our needs, emotions, and desires. But the truth is, expecting others to see the world through our lens is not only unfair but a recipe for heartache. In this blog post, we’ll delve into the perils of uncommunicated expectations and explore how the art of journaling, especially in the context of the “15 Day Challenge to a Stronger You!” book, can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and healthier relationships.

The Unspoken Burden of Expectations

Imagine a world where everyone perceives and processes information the same way you do. Sounds ideal, right? Yet, even identical twins possess unique perspectives. So, expecting those around us to filter information precisely as we do is setting the stage for disappointment. We often catch ourselves saying, “They should have known,” forgetting that fairness prevails only when expectations are communicated.

The Communication Gap

Communication is the key to any successful relationship, yet we frequently fall into the trap of assuming others can read our minds. “They should have known I needed help,” we lament, without realizing that our needs and feelings remain unexpressed. A recent personal experience highlights this common dilemma. Feeling overwhelmed, I expected assistance without explicitly asking for it. When the support didn’t materialize, frustration set in.

The Gut Check Moment

Upon reflection, I recognized the flaw in my expectations. How could I fault someone for not meeting unspoken needs? I hadn’t communicated my distress or explicitly asked for help. The initial resentment I felt melted away when I acknowledged my role in the miscommunication. I also understood that others, even those who typically support us, may not always be able or willing to do so.

The Liberating Power of Communication

The bottom line is clear: unspoken expectations are a breeding ground for disappointment and strained relationships. We construct intricate scenarios in our minds, clinging to the “should be” rather than accepting the “what is.” The key to liberation lies in freeing those around us from the prison of our expectations. This simple shift can transform our interactions, nurturing healthier relationships and shielding us from unnecessary grief.

Take the 15-Day Challenge to a Stronger You!

Embark on a transformative journey with the “15 Day Challenge to a Stronger You!” book. Delve into the power of journaling, a potent tool to uncover patterns of unspoken expectations. The journaling challenge, in particular, equips you with the skills to detect moments where unrealistic expectations may sabotage your relationships.

Don’t miss out on the opportunity to break free from the confines of unspoken expectations. Grab your copy of “15 Day Challenge to a Stronger You!” and immerse yourself in the journaling challenge. Discover the profound impact of effective communication on your relationships and witness the positive transformation in your life.

Take the first step toward a stronger, more fulfilling you – communicate, express, and break free from the prison of unspoken expectations. Your relationships will thank you for it.

New Release: A Brother’s Vow

I’m very happy to announce the release of my new novel  “A Brother’s Vow” Writing this book taught me a lot about Grace, family dynamics and spiritual warfare. It is amazing how God uses everything to teach us and push us to grow to the next level. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed writing it.

Blessings… Naty

A Brother's Vow (Final)

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(Print copies will be available within the next few weeks)

Randall Benson didn’t think life could be any better. His job with the family business allowed him to travel and meet new people. His relationship with his girlfriend the model, gave his access to all the red carpet events and parties, yet there was no requirement for him to be faithful. Although his family doesn’t approve of his careless lifestyle, they love him and do whatever they can to keep him from self-destructing. Yet Randall’s only concern is Randall.

Randall’s world begins to come undone after a series of unexpected events. As Randall tries to settle down and become more dependable, his twin brother Brian seems to be headed down a path that Randall is way too familiar. Brian makes an unusual request that nonchalantly he agrees to keep. He never thought that he would have to keep his word, but he does. As Randall struggles to fulfill his promise to his brother, he is confronted with challenges from his past. Will he succumb to his past and risk losing everything he’s worked so hard to accomplish?

A good friend

As much as we may love our families, we all would have loved to have a say in to who would end up being part of the clan. God as always made a way and that’s why he gave us friends. Friends are the family we get to choose.

In some instances, friends are those who are there to bail you out of a situation without judgment, even before our family. They are the ones willing to tell you the truth when we don’t want to hear it. Even the ones who are willing to support you when you have a bad idea, tell you it’s bad, but because the friendship is more important; they rather be there when we crash than let us walk the plank alone.

God never intended for us to walk in life alone. He created us in a community. Even Jesus spent more time with 12 of his closest friends than with his family. The word of God tells us in Proverbs 27:9 Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul.” Take this day to evaluate the relationships in your life and thank God for the friends He has placed in our paths.TheRoadHomeFinal

Talking about friendship, you will be delighted to check out my new book,“The Road Home”. Meet Desiree and her quest for true love, see how her friend Aimee supports her through all her ups and downs and is the one who shows her the way to the light at the end of the tunnel. The Road Home will be officially launching this Wednesday, June 13th 2012. Get ready to get your copy!